Simplify Your Life with these 3 Habits (must do at least 1 of these per day)

In our busy lives, we can often get caught up with trying to do too much, too often, too quick (I'm the worst for this). But if you want to learn how to slow down, start doing more of what you love (less of what you hate) and learn too appreciate material things, then this is a great episode for you to listen to.



Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below.

Ladies and Gentleman, Hayden Wilson here and this would be Learn Share Grow live, but my facebook is not allowing me right now, because of some connection issues, to upload live so I do apologise, but this is the first take. I’m going to be showing you all about how you can start to do more of what you do like to do and less of what you don’t.

Quite often we get so busy, working and trying to create income, and creating this life that we get so busy doing that we actually forget why we’re doing it and the benefit of having that lifestyle and doing that work and why we want to do it. We get so far away and so busy being busy and not being productive which is obviously very different, that we actually don’t get anything done. What I want you to do, is grab a pen and paper and I’m going to show you a great exercise that I learned from one of my mentors, Ken Blanchard.

What you need to do on your piece of paper is write 1 to 20 down the left hand column – these are things that you like doing, activities that you participate in, and this doesn’t mean that you’ve done them recently, you’ve got to go through that, it just means things that you like doing. Going to cafes, having a coffee, reading a book, perhaps it’s spending time with a loved one, maybe it’s walking your dog, maybe it’s just doing nothing, sleeping in on a Sunday, whatever it might be, things that you actually enjoy doing. So write them down, 1 to 20 – it might take you five minutes, it might take you an hour – it’s really important that you do the best that you can.

The second thing that I need you to do is to draw up two columns on the right and these will correspond with the numbers. In the first one I want you to put a dollar sign and in the second one I want you to write Date.

Now we’re going to go through them and go down the list and we’re going to decide which items took money and then we’re going to write when we last did that activity. This is a terrific exercise to give you a broad awareness of yes you enjoy doing these things but when was the last time you actually participated in that activity – when did you last do it, and you will see that a lot of the stuff that you enjoy doing might not necessarily take money. Once we have this list and know what we need to do to because this provides happiness so our working so hard is to fund and to be able to do a lot of this stuff, then we can start to decide - well look I haven’t done it in three months and I really enjoy this activity, why haven’t I done it

Then what I want you to do is schedule it in. So look in your diary, and if you haven’t taken your dog for a walk and sat in a nice cafe, like I like to do, then I want you to schedule that in and plan for it because if you don’t plan it, it’s not going to get done because we get so busy doing the busy work that we forget to come back to the real reason why we’re doing all these things.

I hope this tip helps. This is one of my shortest videos and I hope you enjoy it. This is a great exercise, it changed a lot of the stuff I did and the awareness around what I actually like doing and I hope it does the same for you.

This has been Hayden Wilson for Learn Share Grow, not live this time, but I’ll be back live tomorrow. Thanks for watching – any more details or questions, head over to . Thank you.

How to do more of what you love (and less of what you don't)

In this episode I share with you a really grerat exercise I learnt from management guru Ken Blanchard. Ken has been a terrific mentor of mine for years and without his books, audio programs and seminars, I would not be where I am today. This is a great video for those who are working hard and finding it hard to find balance. Maybe you're addicted to work and forget what it's like to have fun. This episode will help get back that frame of mind where things were fun and help you discover what you really enjoy.

I know this is going to be a great episode for you.


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Coming Soon.

Is It Time To Clear that Desk? (A little reminder, Clear Desk, Clear Mind)

In this episode of Learn Share Grow I teach you a simple system that will clear that desk and help you get back into that focused mode where you can actually complete what needs to be completed. It's a 2 stage process that will not only allow you to focus, but also provide an ongoing management system so you aren't constantly loosing that focus to 100 different things.


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below

Ladies and Gentlemen, Learn Share Grow live with Hayden Wilson. Today I’ll be sharing with you a few tips on how you can start to become more creative in your workspace by having a clean desk.

Now there are studies to prove that by having a clean desk we can start to be more creative and realise our true capacity because what happens is, and I know that some of you will have a ton of piles around you, like I used to have, on my desk, of work that I needed to complete and action steps and this and that – so much junk around my desk that what quite often happens is, when looking at the computer, something catches our eye and then you think, ‘oh yeah, I’ve got to get that done’ and that creates stress. Then all of a sudden, when we’re looking at that we find three other piles and all of a sudden this snowball effect happens where we get this momentum and we feel overwhelmed by all these tasks we have to do without going back and focussing on what we should actually be focussing on. By having all these different piles and different tasks, we get quite confused and the brain doesn’t know how to prioritise – it becomes overwhelmed and shuts down, and it’s no good for any kind of creative process.

So what we’ve got here is my little man and he’s a typical office worker or regular sort of person with a bunch of different items around his desk. He’s very frazzled, his hair is out of control and he’s overwhelmed with the amount of work that needs to be done. What I’m going to show you, is a system that I’ve used that totally clears out all the junk and helps you to refocus on what you actually need to get done – back to our creative work and produce the results that we need to produce.

The very first thing that you need to do is to ‘clear’. So I want you to remove every single thing off your desk and give it a spray and wipe. I want you to clean it and realise that this is your workspace, this is where you’re creative so I want you to clear everything off and put it into main piles – we’ll deal with the piles in a minute, but your first task is to get everything off your desk, off the table, whichever environment you work in, and then we’re going to realign it and start to realise what you actually need on this desk that’s going to help you right now.

The next step is, we’re going to have three different piles. The first pile is our ‘trash’. These are items that we no longer need, they no longer serve us, we look at them and analyse whether we still need this right now, is it serving its purpose or has it already served its purpose, do I need it, that’s the main question here. If you don’t need it, I want you to shred it, throw it away, get rid of it, burn it, whatever you need to do. You don’t need it on your desk providing clutter and cluttering up your brain so just get rid of it, bite the bullet.

If you do think it might be useful, but you don’t need it right now, it’s going to go into our second category which is ‘archive’. With the archive, I have an expandable, alphabetically ordered sorter and what I do with that is anything important that I might need, say bank statements or any other important documents that I need for a later date, or just want to keep on record, I put it into my organised folder and then when I need to reference important things it’s all there in the one spot but not sitting on my desk. I don’t need it right now but I might in the future so I’m not going to throw it out, but I don’t need it right in front of me, clogging up my space. So I put it into my alphabetical order, easy to reference and easy to get into.

The third pile that we are going to have is ‘action’. These are items, and I want you to take a look at them, because of the 30 items or 10 items or whatever items that we have on our desk, we might really only need a small percentage of those items to actually do what we need to do. So put those into it, and every day you might need to visit them and think ‘can I do this right now?’ ‘yes I can, this is a good time to do it’ , so set aside some time and then punch through it. Or you might decide ‘that needs to wait until later in the week’ and put it at the bottom of the pile or whatever system you find works for you within that action pile and then you decide ‘okay I’m going to dedicate an hour later in the week to get those tasks done’.

By just having one pile on your desk of things you actually need to do, and you can put it into the stacking plastic containers like I have, but just by having one pile, instead of 30 different piles around you, it’s going to make your brain focus on what you actually need to get done. So we’ve gone from an entire desk of items and culled it back, and now all we have on that desk is perhaps our computer, our telephone, some very basic stationery – many times I see desks that have every piece of stationery under the sun, the hole punch, the stapler, the pens, the highlighters, the textas, everything that they can think of, but what do you actually need right now? Can it go in the drawer, away from us, and get us to a clear playing field? If you’ve got a bunch of stuff like that, remember don’t put it back on the desk until you actually need it. Put it in a drawer, put it somewhere else, don’t clog up the workspace. We’ve got the phone, the computer, whatever we need for the important document or task we are working on right now, pull it from the action task or whatever you’re doing and have it right there so you can reference it, rather than having, like I said, the entire plethora of piles that we all are used to having, clear that out and you’re going to find it helps clear your mind and you’re going to get a lot more done.

Remember the number one rule. None of that other stuff matters, the only thing that matters in business and in life is results.

So if you have any questions please feel free to chuck them in the comments below and I’ll get to them. Otherwise, jump over to Thanks for watching. This has been Learn Share Grow live. Catch you next time. Ciao.

Go on an Information Diet (Cut the Crap and Free Yourself)

In this episode of Learn Share Grow, I am going to share with you something that will change your life, as it did with mine. It's called going on an information diet and you will find that once this is done, you will start to think a lot clearer, become more focused on what actually needs to be done and achieve better results.

See our lives are filled with news, advertising, sensationalised journalism and other tabloid BS....

It's just not needed.

I am going to show you exactly how to cut the crap out and remove negativity from coming in.

Remember, crap in, crap out.


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below:

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live, Episode 27. Thank you for joining me.


Today we’re talking all about how to go on what’s called an information diet. All the time, whether we’re at home, in our work life or in our personal lives we’re exposed to a plethora of information. We’re living in what’s called the information age, whether that be TV or radio or emails – all this information is coming in and if we don’t monitor and have a filtering system for what’s coming in, if it’s crap in then it’s going to be crap out. So I want you to be really conscious of what’s coming in and I’m going to share with you four different areas of your life that I believe everyone should cut out. You can make the decision, after you’ve watched this and decide, which of these four you want to cut out and which one you’re probably doing a bit too much of.


So the first one that I’m talking about here is you need to start cutting the crap with all the advertising that comes in through the internet, through the junk mail in your letterbox and wherever else you’re getting advertisements because their main goal is to get you to buy something. So although it sounds like they’re trying to help you, when your judgement is clouded with these promises of 500 clients in two days or an extreme special of 89% off and whatnot, our judgement starts to get clouded and we start to think of this ultimate life. There’s a button on facebook and every time an ad comes up – this is what I did in my life – every time an ad came up I just decided that enough was enough, there were too many ads taking away from my creative time which is the only place that you can truly achieve great results, so this button on facebook that you can press to say ‘remove all ads from this person’. I went on a rampage and cut off maybe 10 or 15 different advertisers that I’d been to their website and they’d started some retargeting and started to advertise with me which means it was relevant to my interests at that time, but it was no longer serving me. So I cut it completely off and I want you to do the same as well.


The second thing is to stop watching the news. The news is designed, and I’m talking about the television news, the 6 o’clock news or whatever it is in your country and state is designed to scare you, it’s terrorisation, you’re looking at what the news headlines are. If you have a look at the types of headings they use and the wording and language within the article it is designed with scare tactics in mind to try and make you feel uneasy. If you look even further at the driving force behind these newspapers and who’s in control and what side of the political parties they sit on, you’ll realise that these magazines, I call them, the newspapers, are absolute rubbish. There is a small selection that has relevant information, maybe The Age, but that’s also moving towards this journalistic style of writing, but I just want you to be really careful with what you’re putting into your mind and stay away, stop reading the Herald-Sun. That’s TV and newspapers mixed into one. These news programs are the main focus there. Stop focussing on reading and thinking that you’re educating yourself when you’re reading say the Herald-Sun because you’re not. You’re taking in what they want you to take in. The real stories are in the headlines which aim to grab your attention and help you read, and all of a sudden you are half way in and decide that this is all just tabloid bullshit. When you actually look at what the real content is and the real issues that are hurting our world, that’s when you can start to realise there are other websites out there that provide real information rather than just trying to scare you.


So that’s TV and newspapers, I also want you to cut out all the advertising. The last one is radio. If you are currently listening to the radio in your car, pop stations – that’s fine, music is fine. It’s when the ads and the news come on, again, it’s the same style of advertising, the same style of scare tactics that you need to cut out. Start thinking about putting on an audio book, or start listening to a podcast – this is actually a podcast so you can start to listen to me in the mornings. There are so many other options rather than conforming to what society believes is the news.


So I want you to go on this information diet. Cut all the crap out of your news feeds, stop watching the news at 6 o’clock. The reality is, and I haven’t watched the news in 3 years and I’ve never been in a situation where I’ve been caught out and someone has called me out and said ‘oh my god, I can’t believe you don’t know that’ because it just doesn’t matter. Anything that I need to know I can find out through other ways. Either someone tells me ‘oh this happened’ and they can inform me through word of mouth and then I can go off and do my own research, or I can do my own research on the proper news sites that I want to look at rather than the Herald-Sun or 7-News. You know the headlines ‘Cut out Sugar’ and ‘Sugar is an Instant Killer’ so I want you to start to become a lot more aware and when you’re watching the news – allow yourself a small bit of news tonight – to see what tactics they use and how they use their language. If you think back to 20 years ago when it was actually a news production and there was a lot less competition, it may have been relevant information. Now, since there’s so much more competition and there’s a global market place for news – back 20 years ago the only place you could see news was with a half hour TV show at 6 o’clock. Now you’ve got twitter, you’ve got facebook, all those different websites, you’ve got all the magazines and all the newspapers, there’s so much more information available, so all of these big, big news corporations and businesses, because they are businesses, are vying for your attention and the only way to get that attention is by sensationalising what they put in their headlines.


So, do that, go on an information diet. If you have any questions of course let me know at . This has been Learn Share Grow. Catch you next time. Ciao.


Clear that Inbox (Your Inbox Should Not Be Your To-Do List)

Welcome to Learn Share Grow Episode 26.  This week we are talking about simplifying and cutting the crap.  Today specifically we are talking about cutting the crap within your inbox. A lot of people struggle (like I used to) with email inbox issues.  Incoming, mostly useless mail can often overwhelm us and we lose sight of what is actually important or miss an email that is actually important.

So, often to combat this we will have folders, sub-folders, sub-sub folders and beyond...they're simply not necessary and I'm going to show you why in today's video.

To make this process easier, I have developed a fool proof system that instead of using 100's if not thousands of folders....uses just 4.

Yes it is that simple.

And this will save you a ton of time.

Enjoy the video and get started on the work that matters today.


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below.

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live, Episode 26. This whole week we’re talking about simplifying your life and I’ve got some awesome stuff around how you can start to cut some of the bad stuff out and start to live a life that’s more simplistic, less crap in it and just clear all the junk that we don’t need in our life.


The first one that I’m talking about today is how to clear that in-box. I know a lot of people struggle with having a lot of emails, or sometimes if you’re like me, you get overwhelmed with the amount of junk mail that comes in and trying to decipher what’s actually important because you might receive 20 or 30 emails and only 1 or 2 or them may actually require action. The problem a lot of people face is they have folders, sub folders, sub sub folders, and it goes on and on and on, and if you’re anything like me, you end up with 20 or 30 different folders for every situation. I used to have hundreds of folders for clients, then individual actions for those clients, then inside of that, what they needed to give me, what I needed to give them – you end up getting so overwhelmed with what’s actually necessary that you actually forget what you need to get done and what you have to follow up. So I’m going to give you a system today that’s really simple to use. It only contains four different folders that you actually need in your in-box. It’s going to cut out all this shit and get you up and running ready to go, in your in-box so you can actually get done what you need to get done.


Before we even look at the system I’m going to present to you today we need to work out three different things. The first thing is I want you to cut out the crap. Get rid of the newsletters that you subscribe to that are no longer serving you. If friends are emailing you, you’re part of that loop, where the jokes get sent around to, or they’re keeping you in the loop with stuff that you don’t really need, just politely let them know you no longer want to participate – you don’t really need those emails clogging up your in-box.


So, I want you to clear out and stop that incoming stuff that you don’t really need. So as much as you can, unsubscribe to all those additional services because to be honest, they’re not really serving you. The second thing that you need to do is set up the folders that I’m about to show you. From there, the third thing we’re going to do is start to action all the items – I’ve drawn a little in-box here that normal people have – we’re going to sort of these items that are currently in the in-box, and put them into the four folders that I’m going to show you.


If we move on, before we can do any deletions or whatever, we need to create the four folders. The first folder I want you to create is ‘Action’. This is going to act as your To-Do list. Rather than sitting in your in-box and being overwhelmed and having thousands or hundreds or whatever emails in that in-box, we’re going to sort them into what needs Action and what we need to follow up as professionals. I’ll go into in a little bit more detail once we have them all written up here.


The second one I want you to create is ‘Archive’. In Archive, what we’ll have is anything that we don’t necessarily need to have in our minds right now, or in our in-box, they don’t require action, but we may need them in the future. Usually that’s where we have our folders, sub folders, sub sub folders and it causes confusion. By having that system we can’t actually find what we need. There’s a search button for a reason – I want you to start getting familiar with the search button rather than having thousands of folders – so we’re going to set up our Archive.


The next folder we’re going to set up is ‘Waiting’ which is where anything that you are waiting on someone else to get delivered and projects that are held up by other people – that’s where we’re going to have all the emails that are in that category.


The last one which is my favourite - it starts with T – ‘Trash’. We have so many emails that are coming in, and so many that are not even important, that we think maybe we need them for a later date or whatever, but the honest truth is, how often do you actually look at them? Just throw them in the Trash. If you don’t need them, if they’re not serving you to create results and to get to your higher purpose, then just delete them, you don’t need them – then delete the Trash. If you really need the information, you have the resources and you know how to actually follow up and get there. So put everything you don’t need in the Trash.


So these are the four main folders that I want you to have. Now we’re going to start the sorting process. You need to scan everything in your in-box, and there’s a simple rule here that I’ve spoken about it on my social media before – if it’s going to take 2 minutes or less to deal with, just bang it out, get it out of the way. If it’s going to take longer, that’s when we move it from our in-box and into our Action folder. You’ll find a bunch in between all these emails that need to go into the Action folder that we can’t take action on right now, they may require a much bigger response or take some thinking power that we can’t get done in 2 minutes, and we need to take it on in a different time. So take all of that stuff that actually needs to be actioned and put it into the Action folder.


The next one is the Archive. So if you’ve got messages from your accountant or maybe it’s business related, personal related but you want to keep it, you might need it at a later date, some password type of stuff, then put it into your Archive folder.


The next one is the Waiting folder. We’ve all got messages in our in-box that are from people who we are waiting for follow up on and it might have been a couple of days. What I do with this Waiting folder is, when it has been a day or two, every morning I just scan it and decide if I need a friendly follow up, or maybe they need a stern follow up to actually deliver what they said they were going to deliver, but rather than having it sitting in my in-box or my Action folder where it will overwhelm me, I put it in into my Waiting folder and then for 5 minutes a day, instead of waiting around and spending time getting stressed on what people need to deliver you, is when you have your Waiting folder, just spend 5 minutes follow it up and just call ‘hey just wondering when I can expect that, you said it was going to be here last Thursday, it’s now Monday, so can we follow up on that’.


The fourth one – I want you to go through and relentlessly Trash anything that you don’t need. You don’t need to keep newsletters from yonks ago, or emails that have information that are just no longer serving you. Use that Trash and really be relentless and ruthless with those emails because we just don’t need how many we normally think we need.


This is a sure-fire system, the Action, Archive, Waiting and Trash. If you have any issues or you’re still having trouble with your in-box – getting overwhelmed with how many emails are coming in, just use this system. It takes a little bit of getting used to, and also for those who already have hundreds of sub folders, you’re going to have to go through them and move them into the archives and get good at using that search button because it’s very useful when we know how to search for things. You can sort - I’m not sure what type of computer you have, but generally Microsoft Office and Outlook and Mac Mail and Gmail have very powerful search functions but also you can search by ‘date’, ‘who sent it’, if you sent it you can look at your ‘sent items’ and we can start to find information that way rather than having these hundreds of sub folders.


I hope this helps. If you have any questions, feel free to chuck them in the comments below or jump over to where you can see more of these videos and also get in touch with me. So thanks for watching and I’ll catch you next time. Ciao.

How to Gain More Control In Your Life (Develop the R.O.E Mentality)

In this episode I discuss the best way that you can gain more autonomy in your workplace.  By producing results. Results are all that matter.

Whether you are an employee, a business owner, a student or a teacher, if you can produce results for someone else, they will take action upon your advice.

But there is one caveat to gaining this autonomy.....In the below video I discuss exactly that.


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Coming Soon.

When To Call It Quits - (Advice on When it's Time to Quit Your Job)

There are situations where you need to know when to quit your job. The famous saying of quitters never win and winners never quit is great, but in reality, if you're stuck in a bad situation you're just plain stubborn if you try and stick at it.

There are three time you should move to a new workplace.

1. If you're no longer growing and learning.

2. If you know the company isn't ethical or don't agree with their work

And 3.... Well you'll need to watch below.

Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below

Hey guys, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode 24 and today I’m talking all about how you can learn when it’s time to call it quits. If you’re in a situation where you’re not sure if you’re enjoying your job and you are unhappy, I’m going to give you three crucial keys to ask yourself before you make that jump and before you quit because there are important elements and something to learn in every situation. So we want to make sure that we’re not jumping ship too early so I’m going through the strategies right now.


The first thing I want you to ask yourself before you move on is if you are still growing or learning. If you’re not growing or learning in your current role you need to ask yourself what am I actually achieving? Because if you’re just going in day in, day out, and just doing the same old thing, where is the progression, what can you actually achieve? I’m all for sticking around and hustling, and working hard but if you’re not learning and growing and developing as an employee, as a person, then it’s pretty much a wasted time. So I want you always think am I growing, am I learning?


The second thing that you need to know when you are deciding whether to move on or not, and you can call it quits, I’m giving you permission to call it quits, is if you know the company is bad or it doesn’t align with what you believe, if it’s unethical, if it’s doing or going in places that you don’t believe are where you want to go or what is right for other people – are they acting unscrupulously, are they doing things that you don’t necessarily agree with? If they’re doing these things, ripping off customers, having bad customer service, not treating their employees well, then by all means, it’s time to start looking for a new job.


The third thing that you would like to ask yourself is are you annoyed with, or do you not get along with the people. The connections that we make at work can either make or break us because we can form relationships with these people that can lead to many different avenues. But if you don’t like the people who you are working with or there are situations like, they might be bullying you, or you just don’t plain don’t get along with people who you are working with – of course, in all working environments there are people who you do and don’t get along with but if there’s definitely a gap between how well you’re being treated and how well you internally think that you should be treated, if the gap is too large, then it’s time to quit and find a new job.


So these are the three questions that you need to ask yourself. Am I growing, am I learning? Is the company performing tasks that I don’t personally agree with? How am I being treated by the other people, are they easy or hard to work with?


All these questions need to be thought of, but before you answer these questions and get up and immediately throw your key card and say ‘boss, no more, I’m sick of it’, you need to think of the pros and cons to finding a new job and what that’s going to allow you. Are you going to be stuck in this same position in three months time because you know, a lot of people get in this trap of not understanding where these certain elements go and what they want out of a job – they think that ‘if I get this job then I’ll be happy’, ‘if I’m able to do these things, then I’ll be happy’ so when you’re applying for a new role you need to understand these three things. So in the interview process, you need to be asking the interviewer, the manager, whoever is interviewing you, ‘what’s in it for me?’ You can be a bit selfish in these situations and see what learning progressions are there, where can I go once I join this company?


The second thing you want to do is do your research on that company before you sign up, before you even go into an interview – I want you to do this specific research. If you’re really big on customer service a little trick that you could use is to call that company as a mystery caller and see how they answer the phone, how do they treat you, is this an environment that you want to be a part of? It’s always good to get an inside view. Do your research on the company, look at what type of stuff they post on facebook, are they even on social media – is that the kind of company they are, or are they more old school – do you want to work for an old school company? These are the questions that you need to ask before quitting and then trying to find a new job only to find this fulfilled happiness trap that we can often fall into. The third thing is the people. Get an idea of what type of people work for this company. Exactly like I said before, when you call up, how do they greet you, how do they treat random strangers? Because if that’s how they treat random strangers, is that the same way that they will treat you as a colleague? So always look at the types of people, how do they dress, are you going to fit into that corporate culture.


These are the three questions you need to ask whilst you are in a job and also why you’re looking for a new job.


I hope this helps. If you have any questions, jump over to Otherwise, I will see you all tomorrow. Ciao.

Grow Your Skills, Grow Your Income (Use This Magic Formula) LSG Episode 23

In this episode I share with you the magic formula you need to find out where you are most valuable into the world. It is not enough to just want something, you need to be actively providing value and delivering results into the world. This is where true career satisfaction comes from. Creating and being needed in the marketplace.

Learn exactly how to grow your natural talents and abilities into skills that are desired in this video.

I also mention a script which you can use to learn about discovering your current strengths and talents. You can get that by looking below.

Thanks for the support if there are any questions please let me know.


Use My Script

Hi [Name] I hope you are well. As a part of my ongoing focus on getting better, I wanted to know if you could answer 2 quick questions for me. It's really important you are honest with me as that way I will be able to improve.

1. What are three things you believe I am really good at? 2. What are three things you think I could improve and need to focus more on?

I really appreciate you taking the time to follow up on this.

If you're able to provide the below before the end of the week, that would be great.

Looking forward to hearing from you, [name].

Thanks, [Your Name]

Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode 23 and today we’re talking about growing your income through growing your skills set.


What we’ve found is that a lot of people think that success is you know, I’ve been in this role for x amount of years or I’ve done this amount of activity and I’m planning around this. All of these are time based metrics or a feeling of worthiness around not really achieving success. The only thing that’s an actual indicator of success is how much value you’re providing to the current world. Whether that be to your business if you own a business; whether that be on the sporting field – how much value are you providing into that team; or it’s even in yourself, in your working role, how much value are you providing to your current employer which is your only client at the time.


These are the only indicators of success – the value that you provide and the results that you are achieving for your sole client. So I think that’s one of the most important things that people are forgetting about. When you can work in sync and have the same view that your boss or your team needs, or what your business needs, when you can work in sync with that and have the priorities right you’ll achieve a much greater level of success because you’re both on the same boat. You both know where you want to go and you can start to put a plan into action to achieve results, not just sit in an office. You know those people who sit in the office and blast you with emails and set up meetings and when you get to the meetings all they talk about is information, sharing and synergy and all these buzz words, but nothing actually gets done. When you focus on actually sitting down and doing the dreaded work and using your mind to get those results you’re going to achieve a much higher level of success. The result is expediential when using that system.


Now to help you reach your ultimate level of success and your highest skills set there is what’s called the magic formula and I’m going to share that with you here. It’s talent times investment equals strength. I’m going to go into this a little bit because talent is a natural way of thinking, it’s those things that seem to come naturally to us. Investment is the time spent using focussed practice which I talked about yesterday – it’s not enough to just be there and spend time doing that activity, you need to be spending focussed time and challenging yourself to get even better each time – remember the 4% rule? You need to be 4% more challenged than what your current skills set allows. When you multiply your talent times your investment in that time spent doing that activity that is going to help you build that strength. Strength if your ability to perform near perfect practice every single time.


Let’s take for example your talent. If you’re talented in a specific area but you only score 2. Just say your natural communication level is at 2. Sure you can invest time into developing communication skills but if you’re not a natural communicator and you don’t speak well even if you scored a level of 2 for talent for communication, even if you invest time and practice and you’re using a 5 scale, 2 times 5 ultimately leads to 10. Whereas if your natural talents lie, say in writing, or speaking on a podcast, and you hit a level of 5 in your talent, then you could spend time focussing on your investment in that activity and getting better which if your talent was 5 and the investment levelled out at 5 that’s ultimately going to lead to strength at a level of 25. So when you compare those two different levels of skills of 10 versus 25, you can see why people who spend a lot of time investing in activities that they’re already naturally good at, develop those skills a lot quicker.


Now I’ve got a couple of different ways that you can learn how to discover what your strengths are. The first way is to look at your previous work in particular, where you achieved the most results. The second way is to ask people - maybe you want to ask your previous clients; or in your current role; you can ask family and friends, making sure that it needs to be quite honest and be prepared to take that honesty. If you’re not prepared to grow and take that honesty then this probably isn’t for you. Maybe you should go back to what you would normally want to be doing. But I can tell that by watching this video you are ready to level up and you want to achieve. So things are the kind of things we need to do. We need to be prepared to take that feedback and ask the question of people ‘how can I get better?’.


I’ve got a script that you can use if you wish. It’s on just below this video or jump over to that website. You can just copy and paste this script and shoot it to five people that you’ve done work for, or five people who know you really well and that’s going to allow you to see where your skills set lies and where they believe your natural talents are because they’ve previously dealt with you and have seen what you can produce.


The third thing I want you to do, if you wish, is to invest in the book ‘Strengths Finder 2.0’ and I believe it’s by Tom Rath and it’s an excellent book. It covers a lot of the stuff that I’m talking about. In the last part of the book it has 34 different skills that we all sort of fall into and there’s a test that you can take. It will explain what actually happens when we are an achiever. What traits we exhibit when our skills set lies in achievement. Like I said there are 34. I want you to jump over to or perhaps go straight to amazon and purchase this book, it’s an excellent resource.


Otherwise, if you just want to learn how best to utilise this magic formula, perform a self appraisal – where do my natural talents lie, what comes easy to me where it doesn’t really feel like work, it just feels like naturally I seem to be good at it. For me, I seem to be naturally good on camera, so when I invest that talent, just say I’m a level 4 or 5, and I invest time into practising it and crafting my skill and getting in front of the camera and in front of different people, and learning and reading about books, if my investment level is 5, I can ultimately achieve a level of strength in that area between 20 and 25. So perform a self appraisal, find out where your talents lie, multiply that, and work out where you can best spend your time, because ultimately, if you can achieve only a 5 or a10 versus a 25, you can tell which one’s the better option.


I hope this helps. Any questions, jump over to . This has been Learn Share Grow live. Thanks for watching. If you think this is valuable information and you would like to live subscribe, there’s a button up here somewhere, then you can get updates on when I bring out new videos. This is also a podcast so I invite you to jump over there if you’re an audio listener like me, that’s also a good option. So thanks for watching. I’ll catch you next time. Ciao.

The World Doesn't Owe You (Intro to the Craftsman's Mindset)

In this episode I speak about what the 'Craftsman's Mindset' is and how it can help provide more career satisfaction than 'following your passion'. Following your passion is dangerous advice and needs to be taken as a grain of salt. To achieve true happiness in our careers we must truly be skilled in them and be so good that people cannot ignore us.

Listen along and learn more. (Including some actionable strategies you can use to become more 'Craftsman Like')


Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode 22 and today I’m going to talk all about what’s called the craftsman’s mindset.


Yesterday we talked about how following your passion may not be the best advice and I presented a few arguments there. Today I want to give you some advice around what’s called the craftsman’s mindset which is a different approach based around skill and value into the world. So yesterday when we talked about passion mindset it’s all about what can the world offer me. This is a selfish approach where you’re only really looking after yourself, you know, what can someone else do for me.


What I want you to develop is what’s called the craftsman’s mindset where you develop your career capital, which I’ll talk a more about in a later episode this week, but it’s basically skills based and value driven – what can you bring into the world to offer more value to other people, other parties and in turn, develop your own skills, your own income and your own career path that’s based around what you ultimately want to do and lead to career satisfaction.


So we’ve got these two: the passion mindset; and the craftsman’s mindset – what can the world offer me; what can I offer the world.


We’re going to concentrate on the craftsman’s mindset which has been proven to be a lot more career satisfaction driven. To develop this we need to have what’s called focussed practice. You know the term ‘practice, practice, practice’. We need to adhere to that, but not only just practising around the elements, we need focussed, uninterrupted practice where we are always challenging ourselves, and I’ve got the number on how much harder it should be than your current skills levels.


We also need to gain experience. Once we gain experience we can then gain confidence and that’s going to lead to a better outcome. The more we can delve into these experiences and really expose ourselves to all the different elements of our career and different pathways, that’s going to help us gain confidence which in turn helps us perform our tasks better.


The third thing we need to do when developing the craftsman’s mindset is to keep your goal of being so good they can’t ignore you. That’s a Steve Martin quote and is where a lot of this material comes from. There’s a book called ‘Be so good they can’t ignore you’ by Cal Newport – I definitely urge you to check it out. It’s a fantastic book and it speaks about a lot of this stuff that I’m sharing with you. So once we can develop that craftsman’s mindset, I’ve got a couple of action steps that you can use to start tracking and taking note on how all of this works and how it intertwines with becoming a craftsman.


The first thing you might like to do is start tracking your hours. If you have a goal of becoming proficient in a certain activity you need to be hitting targets and making sure that you are actually achieving what you set out to achieve and the best way to do this is to measure your results because you can’t manage what you don’t measure. What you could do is create a little spreadsheet, or perhaps even just tick it off in a diary and have what you goal is and what your task is, and then count how many hours did you perform in that given task this week or this month. That’s a really great way to go about tracking things and seeing where you’re at.


The second action step you can take is to ask how. How did someone else do it? It’s always good to emulate other people’s successes and then put your own spin on it because as I said yesterday, success leaves clues and the more that you can find people that have done what you want to do and reach out to them, and buy them a coffee, or buy their consulting time, the easier it’s going to be for you to take on their shortcuts and get to your career path quicker.


The third thing that you can do is push beyond your comfort zone and I talked about this earlier where I talked about a magic number. The number that statistics have proven is 4%. So you need to be 4% better or 4% challenged over what your current competency level is to become proficient at that. So just say you’re trying to learn guitar, you need to be trying to perform the guitar lessons at 4% quicker than what you would normally achieve at. This is the magic number to push you beyond what you’re actually capable of but not so far that you get stressed during the actual activity. So adhere to the 4% rule when you’re trying something else and obviously it’s a little bit hard to manage but the way you would judge it is ‘is this too easy, or is this too hard?’ If it’s too easy you need to ask yourself ‘why am I currently doing this?’ because doing easy things is the easy way out. We need to do harder things and activities that challenge us to actually grow and get out of that comfort zone.


So adhere to this, develop the craftsman’s mindset and you’re going to be astounded by the career success that you can start to feel, as opposed to simply following your dreams which, as I outlined, is bad advice, and I’m going to stick by that, so jump over to to see any previous episodes or if you’d like to know more information, email me . This has been Learn Share Grow live and I’ll catch you all tomorrow. Ciao.

Why Following Your Passion is Bad Advice (ask yourself these questions before quitting your job)

In today's episode I present an argument that will show you why following your passion is bad advice.  For years, gurus and career advisers have been harping on about the importance of following your passion (including Steve Jobs), yet in actuality, this is not what we should actually do. Before we can just 'quit' we need to have specific skills and experience so we can provide value into the world.

This video will open your eyes to what is really happening when we following our passion and also show you how to avoid disappointment.



Listen to the Podcast

Contact Hayden:

Full Transcription Below:

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. All this week we’re going to be talking about career success and how you can achieve the most out of your career.


We’re going to take a couple of different out takes on the actual hypothesis which is called the passion hypothesis. This weighs up whether you are actually good at something or whether you have a passion in that area. A lot of people do give the advice of following your passion and we’re constantly told that we need to chase our dreams. But I’m here in this video in particular, to tell you why I think that’s bad advice. A lot of this material has been introduced to me by Cal Newport who wrote a book called ‘So good they can’t ignore you’ which is a Steve Martin quote and one that I particularly agree and resonate with.


I want to present to you three arguments why passion is not necessarily the best route to take and not the best advice. The first is that career passions are rare. We all have passions however there is a low correlation to how that relates to our careers. A study conducted in Canada found that 96% of people didn’t have a career within their passion. So that means that only 4% had transformed what they thought was their passion into a career. What we have found is that passion takes time. We need to understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day and to get passion in certain areas of our life does take time.


Also, I want to mention that passion is a side effect of mastery – the better you are at something, the more passion you feel. Dan Pink has done a lot of work on this in the motivational exercise field and he’s found what’s called the self determination theory. To have the feeling of happiness in our workplace and to have that motivation we need to have three things. The first is autonomy – we need to know we have control over our day and that we can control the outcome. The second thing we need is competence. There have been countless cases of where people want to follow their passion and they throw it in. There’s one particular example that comes to my head where a lady was working in journalism and she wanted to switch over to a yoga instructor so she threw in the towel and then went to do a 200 hour yoga instructor course. She thought she could make it because she had this passion for yoga but what actually ended up happening is she discovered she had no career capital and no skills in that particular area as much as she did in journalism. This obviously led to unhappiness and unfulfilment. She thought after everyone was telling her ‘you should get a job in the yoga field because you’re really passionate about it’ – this ended up being bad advice. So you need to have that autonomy which is the control, you need to have that competence and actually be good at something before you can throw yourself in, and the other thing you need is relatedness, how you work with other people, how you work in relation to them and form part of a group.


So before you throw it in, before you decide that you want to quit your job, I want you to ask yourself these three questions.


The first is, ‘Is the grass greener on the other side?’ This is pretty much a take on the question of let’s really look at it and analyse, is this something that I can see myself doing? Is this an area where I have skills and I can add value to the market place? We are paid in direct proportion to the value we provide into the world. I want you to do a very honest and critical self analysis – do I have skills in that area or is it just a pipedream?


The second question which is a flow on is, ‘Can I use this as a new hobby first?’   A lot of the work I’ve done has been in web design which started off as a hobby which then eventually formed part of my career. For the first two years it was just a hobby and I was building my skills set around how to actually build websites, what the market place wanted and where I could build that value. That’s what you need to do. It’s fine to like a certain element, without having to make it your career – you might just like to have that as a hobby.


The third question is, ‘What skills and attributes do I need to have, or who do I look up to and what skills and attributes do they have so I can replicate that and then get the same level of success as them?’ Success leaves clues and when you find someone that you look up to aspire to be like, we really need to look at why they’re so special, what skills do they have, what courses have they taken, what areas of their lives have they made sacrifices in – and then we need to ask ourselves are we prepared to make those same sacrifices. Are we prepared to spend the time learning what they’ve learnt, travelling where they’ve travelled, to get that same amount of success, because we can’t just follow our passions? We need to have skills and definite areas of expertise to provide that value into the world.


So this is a very quick introduction, I’m trying to make this video quite a short one because I’ve got a lot to cover all week so I want to put this in a concise video, that following your passion is actually bad advice. I will present a few different arguments over the week. Ask yourself those three questions: Is the grass greener; Can I just do this as a hobby, build up my skills set and then transition over which is the best option; and then, what skills and attributes do I need to become like the people I aspire to be to?


Thanks for watching. Any questions, jump over to and you can contact me there. Otherwise, I’ll see you all tomorrow. Ciao.