Leadership

Find Your Release

I was having an interesting conversation with one of my clients yesterday around the cathartic healing effects she has found through the use of her movement-based workouts.

With every new combination of movement, she would learn more about herself. Twisting, turning, shifting and balancing her body in different ways, helped her navigate the inner-workings in the mind, and make sense of the chaos. 

As she was describing her situation, she mentioned how she is also finding it difficult to complete one of her monthly tasks, which was creating the words and copy for a brochure regarding her very unique (and awesome) coaching service. 

As she was speaking about the release, learning and healing that happens during her movement practice, I couldn't help but simultaneously relate it to the fact I do the exact same but through the written word.

They say your clients are most often your best teachers.

Truth. It was a huge lightbulb moment for me.

For me, writing has, and always will be, how I make sense of the world.

I originally found solace through writing in a journal back in 2013, which then moved to writing my thoughts on a computer through blogging, which then led to not just my first book (Why Wait To Be Great?), but now my second with 'Your Pocket Coach'.

For me, the more you write, the more things start to make sense. For others, the more they move, the more they make sense of the world. It's never a definition of whether it exists or not, but more so whether or not you're focusing on that which gives YOU the benefits.

Take some time to review your history and find the moments in which you've felt the most content, organised and calm. Reflect upon the activities that have occurred just before these moments of calmness and observe you 'release' in action.

Like a large X on a treasure map, this is the exact thing you'll want to be spending more time doing if you're looking to slow things down and gain some clarity within the mind.

Move. Write. Paint. Sing. Dance. Lift. Meditate. Create & Grow.

Hayden

 

Hero, Villain or Victim?

In life, you can either be your own best friend, or your own worst enemy. The challenge is, most of the time, anyone with a bias for achievement and potential exploration, will often be the latter. Feelings of never being good enough or that there's always more to be done, (over)populate the mind and send us into overdrive.

Instead of allowing yourself to accept the anxiety that comes along with the above (something I am personally all too familiar with), I wanted to share a simple exercise for you to try in order to make sense of the current chaos, and get through it alive.

I want you to imagine you're sitting inside a cinema right now. Except instead of watching Brad Pitt, Ed Norton or Jake Gyllenhaal on the big screen...it's you. We're watching 'Movie You' right now.

The particular scene on the screen is a snapshot of your current life. Your friends are there, your profession is set, you can see your body, your mind, your loves ones, and most importantly, the thoughts running through your head.

Right now, are you the hero, the villain or the victim of that story?

Too often, we accept our lives as they are, without ever questioning the possibility that things could be different. Instead, we allow our body and mind to lay dormant, while our soul screams from the depths of our heart to be released from the prison called 'Fear'.

Thing is, we all long to be the hero and make a difference in the world, and yet, it seems near impossible to ever imagine ourselves as the Clark Kent's or Bruce Wayne's, when we're sitting on the sidelines, struggling to even make it through the month, the week or the day without feeling beat up and battered.

Here's the thing...whether you like it or not, you are already the hero of your own journey...it just depends what stage you're currently in that determines how you feel about it.

Allow me to share with you the general structure of all good storytelling based movies that come out of Hollywood (something which Joseph Campbell called 'The Hero's Journey').

Basically, it goes that a normal guy/gal is living a normal life when something happens that suggests an adventure is on the horizon.

At first, they resist the challenge, before meeting someone (a mentor) who highlights to them that things could be different.

The power of curiosity and becoming a more evolved version of themselves is enticing, so they take on the challenge. 

They'll then face a whole bunch of surface level challenges, meet new friends, gain a few 'haters' and continue walking this exciting path.

That is, until they come across the real challenge. The 'innermost cave' - which is the technical term for the thing that scares them the most. Inside that cave is the ultimate 'baddy'.

In order to defeat the fear, however, they'll need to muster every bit of courage they've got and walk into that cave alone to face it head on (it must always be done alone).

After nearly dying, they'll find a way to defeat this fear and return back to the homeland as a completely transformed human being, capable of much more than they ever thought possible.

Now, whether you're conscious to it or not, you're on the exact same journey. The Hero's Journey is life. Instead of wondering why things aren't the way you want them to be, maybe it's time to ask, what am I avoiding? Why won't I enter my innermost cave?

Alternatively, if things are going smoothly for you right now, perhaps you're trying to ignore the next call to adventure, and stopping yourself from becoming more of who you need to be?

It's time to get honest with yourself and decide right here, right now that you are the hero of your own movie, and instead of sitting back and allowing your fears to take control, you jump in (head first) and face the fears that are holidng you back.

Go.

2 FREE Chapters From My Brand New Book - Your Pocket Coach (no email required)

Below I wanted to share two sample chapters from my brand new book: Your Pocket Coach with you.

But first, a quick story on how we got here.

Ever since first picked up Napoleon Hill's masterpiece 'Think and Grow Rich' back in 2013, I've been deeply fascinated about how combinations of letters, words, paragraphs, and pages can inspire people to take action.

And so as I was holding that life-changing book, I just knew this was a feeling I wanted to share with others

with just one little difference....

I wanted it to be my words, my thoughts and my inspirations being shared with people to help them take action in the direction of their dreams.

A lot has happened since then, and after a few false starts with writings (ramblings) that have never seen the light of day (probably lucky for you), in 2017, I launched my first book (Why Wait To Be Great?).

The entire journey of writing it was incredible..but that's a story for another day).

Regardless...another year has passed since I wrote that one, and it's been huge in terms of learning for me...

Failures
Successes
Reality Checks
Ups
Downs
and everything in-between.

I know you could say the same too.

But over the last year, I'd say one of my most proud achievements is what I wanted to share with you today...My brand new book.

It's called "Your Pocket Coach", and it's the ultimate 'modern-day bible' to literally carry with you in your pocket and get advice with whatever it is you're facing.

Although it's framed as a 'business' book, my hope is, it's going to do a lot more than just help in your business.

Ultimately, it's 60 actionable, practical pieces of advice to help you gain power of your mind, your money, your business and your life....

and then...TAKE ACTION!

So whether you read a page in the AM/PM or a page or two in between clients (each page takes 1-2 minutes), over the course of 3-4 weeks you'll be done!

(or you just binge on it in one go like the 20 or so people who've read the advanced copy)

Either way, you'll start making some much better decisions because you'll have all the information you need to succeed.

Without further ado, here you go

I hope you (really) enjoy it.

Chapter: Be A Master of Simplification

"In a world filled with information, the greatest value you can offer to others is to cut through the noise, break down the complicated and give your clients the clarity they need to make some much better decisions moving forward. 

In 2017 I created a guide which has helped at least two dozen coaches launch their podcasts. I dedicated the entire first page to listing all the reasons most told me for why they couldn’t get started immediately and showed them how each one was simply an excuse. The result? No more resistance. Just action. 

Now it’s your turn. As a master of simplification, you’ll help break things down to the most basic level for others to digest. To take the complex and remove all confusion. That way, those you serve cannot help but take action upon the advice you share, and you’ll be known as a straight to the point results first type coach. 

When you look at it, everything you’ve ever achieved has simply been a series of tasks strung together in a specific direction. Now, it’s time to do the same for others. Take the time to chunk down what it is your clients want, and give them the clarity they need to achieve their dreams."

Chapter: Stand for Something

"If your business stands for nothing, it will fall for anything. It’s time to get clear on what you do and don’t stand for when working with clients. 

Take a look at some of ours: 

  • We don’t do online training. 
  • We don’t do fad marketing. 
  • We don’t make empty promises. 
  • We don’t focus on anything that doesn’t help us grow. 
  • We do focus on results. 
  • We do focus on our clients. 
  • We do focus on providing exceptional value. 
  • We do focus on causes much bigger than ourselves. 

When you develop a clear philosophy on how you do business, potential clients are in a much better position to make the choice whether or not you’re the right coach for them. 

They’ll either be drawn in or pushed away. This is a good thing. Vague messaging attracts vague clients. 

Get clear about who you’re for, and share that with the world. Once you do, watch how quickly the right people are attracted to your business."

...Now...

If you're keen to get a copy direct to your door, you can go ahead and click HERE to secure one of the 100 advanced copies I got printed just for you.

ps. use the code: "FREESHIP" in Australia/NZ and I'll even cover your shipping and handling costs.

Thanks so much for reading.

Would love to know what you think.

Hayden



 

 

The Defiant Ones...

Just finished watching the incredible miniseries, The Defiant Ones, yesterday. It shares a behind the scenes insight into Dr Dre and Jimmy Iovine (I didn't know about Jimmy until watching this) and the business side of what they've done inside of Hip-hop.

It truly is the best thing I've seen in well over a year.

Packed full of lessons, with a high production value and just beautiful scenes and imagery.

A feast for the eyes, ears and emotions.

Which is why I wanted to share 4 key lessons that I picked up, and inspire you to watch it, or if you've seen it, connect with what I'm saying.

Here's what I learned:

Always put out your best work There is a reason Dre is known for quality. His headphones. His music. The artists he works with. Dre is a master at what he does and is never (ever) afraid to withhold his art unless it's the very best it can be. 25 years in the industry and only 3 albums with his name on the front - the last one taking 15 years to get right.

Q: How focused are you on being known for quality? What do people think when they hear your name? Ultra high quality or cheap quick fix?

Become crazy focused on your craft After learning an incredible work ethic from Bruce Springsteen (who would frequently put in 14-16 hour days in the studio), Jimmy become almost insane to ensure the quality was there for his artists. He wanted to get so good at what he did, that every artist in the industry wanted to work with him...and they did. Lady Gaga, Black Eyed Peas, Gwen Stefani, Nine Inch Nails, Marilyn Manson. The list goes on...

The result? Not only is the guy worth $800 million today, but there's one scene where he is walking into the Apple studios with a t-shirt and backwards hat. When you're that good...you can wear whatever you like!

Q: Out of 10, how would you rate your commitment to being your VERY best at the moment?

Learn the business of what you're doing Dre was a kid who grew up in Compton. He has no formal business education and barely passed school. But the dude is worth $750+ million today

....how?

Dre recalls waking up to the fact that if he wanted to make it in the music business, he needed to learn the second half of that phrase...the business. During that time, he lost so-called friends who thought he became too money hungry and focused on the business side of the music.

But he knew, unless he learned the business element, he wouldn't be around long enough to keep doing what he loves. Same goes for you inside your fitness business.

Q: Have you made that same switch yet?

Be A Prophet When Jimmy first met Gwen Stefani, one of the first things he said to her: "You're amazing. You're going to be a star. But it won't be for six years."

Almost six years to the day, Gwen (and her band, No doubt) become one of the biggest acts on the planet. You've got to get good at spotting great talent. Both for your staff and for your clients.

Q: How well are you at discovering hidden talent and inner greatness before they're famous?

The lessons are there when you open your eyes. I could go on for 20 more points (easily), but for now, will leave it there.

We've got a lot happening here at HQ, including workshops, programs and our membership site all launching shortly. Cannot wait to share some of the magic with you and help you continue to become masterful at what you do.

Will share more in the coming days and weeks as we focus on producing high-quality training for hungry personal trainers.

In the meantime, have you checked out the podcast recently? I recommend starting there.

Speak very soon.

Hayden

The Leadership Fallacy

Hello friends,

It's been a short while since I've checked in with you here. I've been very busy creating a new program for personal trainers and coaches called The Coaches Growth Intensive (more on that shortly).

But today, I write to you from a quaint cafe in Melbourne, sipping my long black from a Japanese cup (the owner collects and imports them). I wanted to talk with you today about something I call the leadership fallacy.

It stems from something I picked up this week while at a course hosted by my friend, Glen Carlson (I've previously interviewed this legend here). Glen mentioned something pretty important, and now  I want to share that with you.

Glen (and business partner, Dan Priestley - who I've also interviewed) are the founders of a company called "Dent Global". Dent is a great company helping 6 and 7 figure business owners create and build great, asset rich, businesses.

They've been around for nearly 10 years and continually push the limits of what is possible for growth. They've got an impressive resume of successful clients, as well as as a huge database of helpful resources. But they aren't perfect. I know this because Glen started off our day together by admitting exactly that.

Like any business, they have things they're working on. As do I, and as do you.

Glen mentioned there is this weird thing that goes on when you're teaching people how to do something, that you, yourself must appear bulletproof. That you are flawless.

It's simply not true.

Nine times out of ten, the whole reason why we even start in the industry we're in, is because at one point, we ourselves felt broken.

We got started and picked up a few things, made some changes and people began to notice. After a little while you start seeing others in the same position you were once in and can see an opportunity to add value.

Our voids drive our values (and consequently, our behaviour). That means, whatever we see as missing, becomes our mission to discover how to fill it. It does NOT however mean that we just magically have all the answers immediately. There is a process.

Yes I am constantly working on and thinking up new ways to serve my clients. But if you think everything is perfect, then you're setting yourself an unrealistic reality.

I struggle with balancing consistent nutrition and training while growing the business. I get easily obsessed with things (product creation, new ideas), which means old ideas take a backseat. I compare myself on social media and can get lost inside a 20 minute 'spiral'.

But me (and my business) is continually a work in progress. Everyday I strive for more and am always seeking answers to my most pressing questions. As a result, as I grow, it grows with me.

The problem I see, is too many coaches (or just people in general for that matter) try to portray the perfect life. They're so busy showcasing the 'amazing' things they do and the epic life they're living, they fall deeper and deeper into their own trap. Sunsets, six packs and secluded beaches can only take you so far.

But what happens when they turn the camera around? To show you the other side of the coin? Most won't. That'd be too scary. For then people would actually see the truth...that you're not perfect (none of us are btw - hopefully you've picked up that by now).

Attempting to live the perfect life only sets you up for ultimate failure.

People connect with me (I hope) because I'm human. I make mistakes on my videos, I make spelling errors all the time (still cannot spell *definitely* without spell checker), and I waste time just like everyone does. But I'm giving it a shot. Every day I strive to make progress in the areas I most need to grow. Some days I cannot wait to be over. Others, I wish had more time so I can continue doing what I love most. There is no perfection, only progression.

We are currently in the process of planning a series of powerful videos that will showcase the real truths of entrepreneurship. Not just from myself, but mostly from the eyes of some of Australia's best and most emerging coaches. Young leaders who're out there seeking their truth, serving clients they love, and making all the mistakes any business owner makes.

Our goal is to create something so powerful (and real) you cannot, not watch it. Our first episode will be out early May - but for now, I wanted to let you know, that's it's OK not to be perfect.

I would love to hear some of your flaws, imperfections and things you're currently working on (if you've got the courage), below. Leave me a comment and let's continue the conversation.

Hayden

What's Your Story

One of the strongest activities you can do inside your business, is to map out your (personal) story.

People buy from (and connect) with real people.

Every single thing that's happened to you, makes up part of who you are and what you believe.

The reason is this so important, is because with business changing so rapidly, it's seemingly harder and harder to break through in the market and reach the end customer.

You can copy all the strategies you like.

But guess what can never be copied. Your story.

You are one of a kind.

People love stories and connect with them directly.

Plus, you are PROOF that what you're telling others is possible, is actually possible.

Walking the talk (I hope...)

But it's actually only valuable if you share it.

So many coaches are scared (or just don't know about) the amazing stories they have within.

It's time to think about it seriously and harness their power.

So from here, there are a couple of ways you can do it:

1. Get out a piece of A4 paper, draw a big S and literally plot all the major points from your business and life.

2. Sign up to my daily email to be on the list to get early access to my upcoming Coaches Growth Academy (membership website) to learn step by step via clear and concise video modules on not only draw your story out, but how to use that to drive new business.

I did this very process midway through last year and was truly blown away by what I'd been through and just how many breakthrough's I'd forgotten about along my 29 (nearly 30...next month *hint hint*) trips around the sun.

Do the work, and the work will work.

Go.

Responsiblity vs Accountibility

Spent an hour with my good friend, (and sometimes coach), Kevin Roberts, on Friday. If you don't know who he is, you can listen to our podcast (i'll link below) or just google him.

In a few words...the guys a gun.

  • Charges multiple five figures a day consulting. (and get's it),
  • Was head honcho for the biggest idea's company in the world (Saatchi and SaatchI) for 19 years,
  • Understands how to win in business better than anyone I've ever met.

At the bottom of the Park Hyatt hotel, we got talking about a lot of things, but one topic that we spoke about, was Responsibility vs. Accountability as a coach.

As a coach, often we get so wrapped up in the clients results, we find it hard to disconnect or distance ourselves from them.

That is, if they fail, we've failed. If they aren't getting the result, it's our fault.

That's backwards thinking.

And only leads to low self esteem and reduced confidence.

Here's the thing:

Our job, as coaches, is the following: - Provide the best advice we currently can (making sure to stay current and up to date) - Share the best tools and resources for change we've got in our toolbelt - Give support (and challenge) when it's needed to help the client grow

Their job as clients... - Do the work (perform the reps, eat the food, prepare the meals, rest the body) - Take full responsibility for the above - Speak up when things aren't on track (we can't read minds..!)

The shift I want you to make, (if you haven't already), is realising that you are accountable for helping the client get a result, but they're the ones who're ultimately responsible for that.

That is, as long as you're doing YOUR best, then that's what coaching is really about.

Think about the best soccer coaches in the world.

The guys who get paid MILLIONS.

They're not hired because they are the best soccer players, they're paid because they know the right stuff.

They know the plays. They know the strategy. They know where each player shines.

Put them on the field though....they'd get eaten alive.

Your job as a coach is so much less about beating yourself up over your clients mistakes (something you can't control), and so much more about learning how to help help them shine and bring out their commitment to a greater future (something you can control).

If only you spent 1/2 as much time on learning how to do that as opposed to worrying, you could really move mountains....

Remember, the best coach is rarely the best player, they just know what to do and how to get the best from those on the field.

The question is....which have you been focusing on?

ps. here's the link to that podcast where KR and I discuss this in depth also.

Swimming Structures

Been a little while since I last checked in (via words) but wanted to shoot you an update.

Signed up for a swimming membership this week and have committed to going everyday for the next 60 days. Already 2 days in, I can feel the benefits and love the structure it’s providing.

As a business owner, structure is one of those (unknown) things that requires your attention.

When you work for someone else, the consequences are directly applicable to you. Don’t show up - don’t get paid. Do show up, do get paid.

Simple formula.

But when you work for yourself, you don’t get the luxury of this structure. Instead, -assume all responsible.

The biggest way I’ve found to assist with this, is by keeping set structures in place.

Having a set bed time and a set get up time is the key to this and where you can begin.

Here’s an insight into my routine:

  • Bed by 10
  • Wake up 4:55am
  • Write daily inspiration email*
  • Schedule email for 5:40am
  • Read for 20 minutes
  • Walk dog 🐕
  • Go swimming (only just started this)*
  • Record video content
  • Begin real “work”

Then I just repeat and fill my day with different tasks I need to get done.

I attempt to keep everything as regulation as possible.

But what I also do, is hold myself accountable. This is why you see the * above.

I set a goal for having my daily inspiration email consistently out by 5:40am each morning. I also take an IG picture of the pool by 8:45am when I begin my laps. I also bought a membership to the pool (I am wise with my money so I will be using it each morning) to keep me on track.

These are the keys to starting a new habit. Get as much skin in the game and accountability as possible.

Then once you see the amazing benefits a consistent habit produces, you will be more and more inclined to continue.

The more I learn about structuring the day, the easier it becomes to simply get what I need to get done. ✊

Getting Your Power Back

Things happen in life. It's one of the biggest cliche's there are.

Take a look at this example from this morning where I got an email from my real estate agent.

I rent my beautiful apartment here in South Yarra, but this morning was advised the owner will be selling...with vacant tenancy.

I've got 60 days to sort it out, and then it's, Byebye, Hayden.

Been a loyal tenant for over 18 months now - including never being late or missing a rental payment.

Here's the reality though.

I am playing in someone else's sandpit.

I pay for the convenience of not having to fork out for maintenance, problems and permanent residency.

But on the opposite side, they can sell the property and boot you out - even if you've got a dog - with a ton of friends at the local park!

It's OK, as soon as I found out, I had about 3 minutes of victim "what about me" speak, before deciding I have options.

I got on Realestate.com.au and found 5 properties already to shoot applications too.

When things happen, you have a choice: Victim or Victor.

My good friend, Jack Canfield, has a formula for this: E + R = O. Events + responses = outcome.

The event happened (notice to vacate) + my response (start looking for new houses) and I get an outcome (get my power back).

Had it been the other way around...

Event happened (notice to vacate) + my response (cry, whine, complain, procrastinate and pretend like nothing happened) and I get a different outcome (stress, no home, no power).

Think of how the same happens in your every day life.

Facebook changes its algoithm - you either learn a new way to get traffic, or complain about the changes.

A client stops training with you - you either ask them what happened and use it as fuel to improve your service, or you cry they were a bad client and fall into a heap.

How we respond to the challenges life throws at us makes all the difference.

If you know you've been playing victim, maybe it's time to step up and step out.

A whole new world awaits....

Hayden

Your Ego is Killing You

One of the biggest killers of growth, is the ego.

Unfortunately, every industry (and human being) has a certain degree of ego within.

It's just some have learned to remove the BS, and others are still stuck in their story.

When I ran the second annual "FBSA" event (Australia's largest multi-speaker event for fitness professionals to learn about business), I saw this full for the first time.

The previous year we'd sold out, every trainer (110 of them) stayed until the very last minute, and I had so much positive feedback I was sure it was going to be an instant hit the next year I created it.

When I launched, I expected at least 75% of the people who came the year before to sign back up.

I was counting on it because I'd gone and done something silly like hire a venue literally 2x the size and 6x the budget. (my ego was in the way!)

But when I put the sales page up, I got crickets.

So I messaged and spoke to a few of the previous years' attendees.

"Hey I'm running the summit again this year, you keen?", "Just wanted to give you a quick call and let you know, the summit is on again this year, would love to have you there, what you think"

It was like pulling teeth.

The main response I got: "Oh I went last year. I'm good".

It was surprising to me.

I thought, wow, in 12 months time, I'd hope not only are you a completely different person, but your business is also in a completely different position.

No-one understands the importance of removing the ego more than the world's best. When I invited my good friend, JP (Jean Pierre De Villiers) back to speak to a close group of clients, we did a Facebook LIVE beforehand.

JP had previously spoken around 9 months ago and was once again travelling from the UK to deliver the goods. (he's a professional speaker and coach around the world).

On our video, JP explained how he was pumped to be speaking again, and that it would be a completely different style of presentation, because each year, he evolves and continues to expand into a completely new level of person.

Just like a lobster breaks free of it's shell after outgrowing the last, I know the true 'growers' of the world take that same approach.

Saying things like: "Oh I'm good - I went last year" or "I don't need to read, I know that" is like when a client says to you "oh I know what I'm doing with my training and nutrition..." but they're still 10kg their goal weight and frequently binge. Things just don't add up.

What I encourage you to do, (starting today), is to remove the ego and regularly perform a 'business stocktake'.

  • You may not be in a position where you're looking for the basics of starting a business like you were at one point, but now it's all about hiring your first trainer.
  • You may not be looking at a system to help you with the admin management, but now it's all about going deep on your client base and finding the new referrals.

I wrote in my book Why Wait To Be Great, that one time I heard John Demartini speak mentioned he always considers himself 'under construction'. This is one of the most important lessons you can ever learn. If someone with 45+ years experience in one field can take the "Students mindset" into everything they do, surely you can too...

Something to think about ;)

Speak soon.