Spent an hour with my good friend, (and sometimes coach), Kevin Roberts, on Friday. If you don't know who he is, you can listen to our podcast (i'll link below) or just google him.
In a few words...the guys a gun.
- Charges multiple five figures a day consulting. (and get's it),
- Was head honcho for the biggest idea's company in the world (Saatchi and SaatchI) for 19 years,
- Understands how to win in business better than anyone I've ever met.
At the bottom of the Park Hyatt hotel, we got talking about a lot of things, but one topic that we spoke about, was Responsibility vs. Accountability as a coach.
As a coach, often we get so wrapped up in the clients results, we find it hard to disconnect or distance ourselves from them.
That is, if they fail, we've failed. If they aren't getting the result, it's our fault.
That's backwards thinking.
And only leads to low self esteem and reduced confidence.
Here's the thing:
Our job, as coaches, is the following: - Provide the best advice we currently can (making sure to stay current and up to date) - Share the best tools and resources for change we've got in our toolbelt - Give support (and challenge) when it's needed to help the client grow
Their job as clients... - Do the work (perform the reps, eat the food, prepare the meals, rest the body) - Take full responsibility for the above - Speak up when things aren't on track (we can't read minds..!)
The shift I want you to make, (if you haven't already), is realising that you are accountable for helping the client get a result, but they're the ones who're ultimately responsible for that.
That is, as long as you're doing YOUR best, then that's what coaching is really about.
Think about the best soccer coaches in the world.
The guys who get paid MILLIONS.
They're not hired because they are the best soccer players, they're paid because they know the right stuff.
They know the plays. They know the strategy. They know where each player shines.
Put them on the field though....they'd get eaten alive.
Your job as a coach is so much less about beating yourself up over your clients mistakes (something you can't control), and so much more about learning how to help help them shine and bring out their commitment to a greater future (something you can control).
If only you spent 1/2 as much time on learning how to do that as opposed to worrying, you could really move mountains....
Remember, the best coach is rarely the best player, they just know what to do and how to get the best from those on the field.
The question is....which have you been focusing on?
ps. here's the link to that podcast where KR and I discuss this in depth also.