How to Gain More Control In Your Life (Develop the R.O.E Mentality)

In this episode I discuss the best way that you can gain more autonomy in your workplace.  By producing results. Results are all that matter.

Whether you are an employee, a business owner, a student or a teacher, if you can produce results for someone else, they will take action upon your advice.

But there is one caveat to gaining this autonomy.....In the below video I discuss exactly that.


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Grow Your Skills, Grow Your Income (Use This Magic Formula) LSG Episode 23

In this episode I share with you the magic formula you need to find out where you are most valuable into the world. It is not enough to just want something, you need to be actively providing value and delivering results into the world. This is where true career satisfaction comes from. Creating and being needed in the marketplace.

Learn exactly how to grow your natural talents and abilities into skills that are desired in this video.

I also mention a script which you can use to learn about discovering your current strengths and talents. You can get that by looking below.

Thanks for the support if there are any questions please let me know.


Use My Script

Hi [Name] I hope you are well. As a part of my ongoing focus on getting better, I wanted to know if you could answer 2 quick questions for me. It's really important you are honest with me as that way I will be able to improve.

1. What are three things you believe I am really good at? 2. What are three things you think I could improve and need to focus more on?

I really appreciate you taking the time to follow up on this.

If you're able to provide the below before the end of the week, that would be great.

Looking forward to hearing from you, [name].

Thanks, [Your Name]

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Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode 23 and today we’re talking about growing your income through growing your skills set.


What we’ve found is that a lot of people think that success is you know, I’ve been in this role for x amount of years or I’ve done this amount of activity and I’m planning around this. All of these are time based metrics or a feeling of worthiness around not really achieving success. The only thing that’s an actual indicator of success is how much value you’re providing to the current world. Whether that be to your business if you own a business; whether that be on the sporting field – how much value are you providing into that team; or it’s even in yourself, in your working role, how much value are you providing to your current employer which is your only client at the time.


These are the only indicators of success – the value that you provide and the results that you are achieving for your sole client. So I think that’s one of the most important things that people are forgetting about. When you can work in sync and have the same view that your boss or your team needs, or what your business needs, when you can work in sync with that and have the priorities right you’ll achieve a much greater level of success because you’re both on the same boat. You both know where you want to go and you can start to put a plan into action to achieve results, not just sit in an office. You know those people who sit in the office and blast you with emails and set up meetings and when you get to the meetings all they talk about is information, sharing and synergy and all these buzz words, but nothing actually gets done. When you focus on actually sitting down and doing the dreaded work and using your mind to get those results you’re going to achieve a much higher level of success. The result is expediential when using that system.


Now to help you reach your ultimate level of success and your highest skills set there is what’s called the magic formula and I’m going to share that with you here. It’s talent times investment equals strength. I’m going to go into this a little bit because talent is a natural way of thinking, it’s those things that seem to come naturally to us. Investment is the time spent using focussed practice which I talked about yesterday – it’s not enough to just be there and spend time doing that activity, you need to be spending focussed time and challenging yourself to get even better each time – remember the 4% rule? You need to be 4% more challenged than what your current skills set allows. When you multiply your talent times your investment in that time spent doing that activity that is going to help you build that strength. Strength if your ability to perform near perfect practice every single time.


Let’s take for example your talent. If you’re talented in a specific area but you only score 2. Just say your natural communication level is at 2. Sure you can invest time into developing communication skills but if you’re not a natural communicator and you don’t speak well even if you scored a level of 2 for talent for communication, even if you invest time and practice and you’re using a 5 scale, 2 times 5 ultimately leads to 10. Whereas if your natural talents lie, say in writing, or speaking on a podcast, and you hit a level of 5 in your talent, then you could spend time focussing on your investment in that activity and getting better which if your talent was 5 and the investment levelled out at 5 that’s ultimately going to lead to strength at a level of 25. So when you compare those two different levels of skills of 10 versus 25, you can see why people who spend a lot of time investing in activities that they’re already naturally good at, develop those skills a lot quicker.


Now I’ve got a couple of different ways that you can learn how to discover what your strengths are. The first way is to look at your previous work in particular, where you achieved the most results. The second way is to ask people - maybe you want to ask your previous clients; or in your current role; you can ask family and friends, making sure that it needs to be quite honest and be prepared to take that honesty. If you’re not prepared to grow and take that honesty then this probably isn’t for you. Maybe you should go back to what you would normally want to be doing. But I can tell that by watching this video you are ready to level up and you want to achieve. So things are the kind of things we need to do. We need to be prepared to take that feedback and ask the question of people ‘how can I get better?’.


I’ve got a script that you can use if you wish. It’s on just below this video or jump over to that website. You can just copy and paste this script and shoot it to five people that you’ve done work for, or five people who know you really well and that’s going to allow you to see where your skills set lies and where they believe your natural talents are because they’ve previously dealt with you and have seen what you can produce.


The third thing I want you to do, if you wish, is to invest in the book ‘Strengths Finder 2.0’ and I believe it’s by Tom Rath and it’s an excellent book. It covers a lot of the stuff that I’m talking about. In the last part of the book it has 34 different skills that we all sort of fall into and there’s a test that you can take. It will explain what actually happens when we are an achiever. What traits we exhibit when our skills set lies in achievement. Like I said there are 34. I want you to jump over to or perhaps go straight to amazon and purchase this book, it’s an excellent resource.


Otherwise, if you just want to learn how best to utilise this magic formula, perform a self appraisal – where do my natural talents lie, what comes easy to me where it doesn’t really feel like work, it just feels like naturally I seem to be good at it. For me, I seem to be naturally good on camera, so when I invest that talent, just say I’m a level 4 or 5, and I invest time into practising it and crafting my skill and getting in front of the camera and in front of different people, and learning and reading about books, if my investment level is 5, I can ultimately achieve a level of strength in that area between 20 and 25. So perform a self appraisal, find out where your talents lie, multiply that, and work out where you can best spend your time, because ultimately, if you can achieve only a 5 or a10 versus a 25, you can tell which one’s the better option.


I hope this helps. Any questions, jump over to . This has been Learn Share Grow live. Thanks for watching. If you think this is valuable information and you would like to live subscribe, there’s a button up here somewhere, then you can get updates on when I bring out new videos. This is also a podcast so I invite you to jump over there if you’re an audio listener like me, that’s also a good option. So thanks for watching. I’ll catch you next time. Ciao.

The World Doesn't Owe You (Intro to the Craftsman's Mindset)

In this episode I speak about what the 'Craftsman's Mindset' is and how it can help provide more career satisfaction than 'following your passion'. Following your passion is dangerous advice and needs to be taken as a grain of salt. To achieve true happiness in our careers we must truly be skilled in them and be so good that people cannot ignore us.

Listen along and learn more. (Including some actionable strategies you can use to become more 'Craftsman Like')


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Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode 22 and today I’m going to talk all about what’s called the craftsman’s mindset.


Yesterday we talked about how following your passion may not be the best advice and I presented a few arguments there. Today I want to give you some advice around what’s called the craftsman’s mindset which is a different approach based around skill and value into the world. So yesterday when we talked about passion mindset it’s all about what can the world offer me. This is a selfish approach where you’re only really looking after yourself, you know, what can someone else do for me.


What I want you to develop is what’s called the craftsman’s mindset where you develop your career capital, which I’ll talk a more about in a later episode this week, but it’s basically skills based and value driven – what can you bring into the world to offer more value to other people, other parties and in turn, develop your own skills, your own income and your own career path that’s based around what you ultimately want to do and lead to career satisfaction.


So we’ve got these two: the passion mindset; and the craftsman’s mindset – what can the world offer me; what can I offer the world.


We’re going to concentrate on the craftsman’s mindset which has been proven to be a lot more career satisfaction driven. To develop this we need to have what’s called focussed practice. You know the term ‘practice, practice, practice’. We need to adhere to that, but not only just practising around the elements, we need focussed, uninterrupted practice where we are always challenging ourselves, and I’ve got the number on how much harder it should be than your current skills levels.


We also need to gain experience. Once we gain experience we can then gain confidence and that’s going to lead to a better outcome. The more we can delve into these experiences and really expose ourselves to all the different elements of our career and different pathways, that’s going to help us gain confidence which in turn helps us perform our tasks better.


The third thing we need to do when developing the craftsman’s mindset is to keep your goal of being so good they can’t ignore you. That’s a Steve Martin quote and is where a lot of this material comes from. There’s a book called ‘Be so good they can’t ignore you’ by Cal Newport – I definitely urge you to check it out. It’s a fantastic book and it speaks about a lot of this stuff that I’m sharing with you. So once we can develop that craftsman’s mindset, I’ve got a couple of action steps that you can use to start tracking and taking note on how all of this works and how it intertwines with becoming a craftsman.


The first thing you might like to do is start tracking your hours. If you have a goal of becoming proficient in a certain activity you need to be hitting targets and making sure that you are actually achieving what you set out to achieve and the best way to do this is to measure your results because you can’t manage what you don’t measure. What you could do is create a little spreadsheet, or perhaps even just tick it off in a diary and have what you goal is and what your task is, and then count how many hours did you perform in that given task this week or this month. That’s a really great way to go about tracking things and seeing where you’re at.


The second action step you can take is to ask how. How did someone else do it? It’s always good to emulate other people’s successes and then put your own spin on it because as I said yesterday, success leaves clues and the more that you can find people that have done what you want to do and reach out to them, and buy them a coffee, or buy their consulting time, the easier it’s going to be for you to take on their shortcuts and get to your career path quicker.


The third thing that you can do is push beyond your comfort zone and I talked about this earlier where I talked about a magic number. The number that statistics have proven is 4%. So you need to be 4% better or 4% challenged over what your current competency level is to become proficient at that. So just say you’re trying to learn guitar, you need to be trying to perform the guitar lessons at 4% quicker than what you would normally achieve at. This is the magic number to push you beyond what you’re actually capable of but not so far that you get stressed during the actual activity. So adhere to the 4% rule when you’re trying something else and obviously it’s a little bit hard to manage but the way you would judge it is ‘is this too easy, or is this too hard?’ If it’s too easy you need to ask yourself ‘why am I currently doing this?’ because doing easy things is the easy way out. We need to do harder things and activities that challenge us to actually grow and get out of that comfort zone.


So adhere to this, develop the craftsman’s mindset and you’re going to be astounded by the career success that you can start to feel, as opposed to simply following your dreams which, as I outlined, is bad advice, and I’m going to stick by that, so jump over to to see any previous episodes or if you’d like to know more information, email me [email protected] . This has been Learn Share Grow live and I’ll catch you all tomorrow. Ciao.

Why Following Your Passion is Bad Advice (ask yourself these questions before quitting your job)

In today's episode I present an argument that will show you why following your passion is bad advice.  For years, gurus and career advisers have been harping on about the importance of following your passion (including Steve Jobs), yet in actuality, this is not what we should actually do. Before we can just 'quit' we need to have specific skills and experience so we can provide value into the world.

This video will open your eyes to what is really happening when we following our passion and also show you how to avoid disappointment.



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Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. All this week we’re going to be talking about career success and how you can achieve the most out of your career.


We’re going to take a couple of different out takes on the actual hypothesis which is called the passion hypothesis. This weighs up whether you are actually good at something or whether you have a passion in that area. A lot of people do give the advice of following your passion and we’re constantly told that we need to chase our dreams. But I’m here in this video in particular, to tell you why I think that’s bad advice. A lot of this material has been introduced to me by Cal Newport who wrote a book called ‘So good they can’t ignore you’ which is a Steve Martin quote and one that I particularly agree and resonate with.


I want to present to you three arguments why passion is not necessarily the best route to take and not the best advice. The first is that career passions are rare. We all have passions however there is a low correlation to how that relates to our careers. A study conducted in Canada found that 96% of people didn’t have a career within their passion. So that means that only 4% had transformed what they thought was their passion into a career. What we have found is that passion takes time. We need to understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day and to get passion in certain areas of our life does take time.


Also, I want to mention that passion is a side effect of mastery – the better you are at something, the more passion you feel. Dan Pink has done a lot of work on this in the motivational exercise field and he’s found what’s called the self determination theory. To have the feeling of happiness in our workplace and to have that motivation we need to have three things. The first is autonomy – we need to know we have control over our day and that we can control the outcome. The second thing we need is competence. There have been countless cases of where people want to follow their passion and they throw it in. There’s one particular example that comes to my head where a lady was working in journalism and she wanted to switch over to a yoga instructor so she threw in the towel and then went to do a 200 hour yoga instructor course. She thought she could make it because she had this passion for yoga but what actually ended up happening is she discovered she had no career capital and no skills in that particular area as much as she did in journalism. This obviously led to unhappiness and unfulfilment. She thought after everyone was telling her ‘you should get a job in the yoga field because you’re really passionate about it’ – this ended up being bad advice. So you need to have that autonomy which is the control, you need to have that competence and actually be good at something before you can throw yourself in, and the other thing you need is relatedness, how you work with other people, how you work in relation to them and form part of a group.


So before you throw it in, before you decide that you want to quit your job, I want you to ask yourself these three questions.


The first is, ‘Is the grass greener on the other side?’ This is pretty much a take on the question of let’s really look at it and analyse, is this something that I can see myself doing? Is this an area where I have skills and I can add value to the market place? We are paid in direct proportion to the value we provide into the world. I want you to do a very honest and critical self analysis – do I have skills in that area or is it just a pipedream?


The second question which is a flow on is, ‘Can I use this as a new hobby first?’   A lot of the work I’ve done has been in web design which started off as a hobby which then eventually formed part of my career. For the first two years it was just a hobby and I was building my skills set around how to actually build websites, what the market place wanted and where I could build that value. That’s what you need to do. It’s fine to like a certain element, without having to make it your career – you might just like to have that as a hobby.


The third question is, ‘What skills and attributes do I need to have, or who do I look up to and what skills and attributes do they have so I can replicate that and then get the same level of success as them?’ Success leaves clues and when you find someone that you look up to aspire to be like, we really need to look at why they’re so special, what skills do they have, what courses have they taken, what areas of their lives have they made sacrifices in – and then we need to ask ourselves are we prepared to make those same sacrifices. Are we prepared to spend the time learning what they’ve learnt, travelling where they’ve travelled, to get that same amount of success, because we can’t just follow our passions? We need to have skills and definite areas of expertise to provide that value into the world.


So this is a very quick introduction, I’m trying to make this video quite a short one because I’ve got a lot to cover all week so I want to put this in a concise video, that following your passion is actually bad advice. I will present a few different arguments over the week. Ask yourself those three questions: Is the grass greener; Can I just do this as a hobby, build up my skills set and then transition over which is the best option; and then, what skills and attributes do I need to become like the people I aspire to be to?


Thanks for watching. Any questions, jump over to and you can contact me there. Otherwise, I’ll see you all tomorrow. Ciao.

Why Multitasking Doesn't Work (and what you should be doing....)

Most people's to do lists are either non-existent, or 200 items long.  Both of these generally result in the essential items being missed, and the easy stuff being done instead. Let me show you how you should really be creating your to do list which focuses on big ticket items and actually getting results.



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Ladies and Gentlemen, Learn Share Grow live here with Hayden Wilson. Today I’m sharing some strategies with you, again around Time Management, but we’re going to talk about why multitasking doesn’t actually work and what does work.


Studies have shown, and there may be some who disagree on this call, but what multitasking is actually doing is it’s your brain switching from one activity to another, back and forth and you lose focus during that time – it’s a very energy intensive activity. What we really need to do is to have our brain lined up, start and finish one task at a time, and just move forward down our priorities. As you can see up here, we see two people. The first on the left is someone trying to multitask and as you can see, the building blocks just aren’t adding up. On the right hand side we have someone who has a single focussed mind and he is able to build his wall quite succinctly. That’s what I want you to start doing. Multitasking is a myth and there have been countless studies to prove this and this is just another example and that’s why I’m here to tell you today and to explain some strategies around single task focus is a lot more efficient.


When you’re focussing singly on one particular activity it’s a lot easier to have a clear goal, we’ve got our priority list that we’ve already set out during the week and we know exactly what we should do first and what we should do second. When you’ve got that single focus you can maintain on the entire task for the duration from start to finish. This is how we get productivity completed and work done.


So I’m going to share a couple of strategies with you that have worked for me. The first is to keep a notebook handy so if you’re anything like me and you might be half way through a task and another task comes in, or someone comes up to you and their agenda items, depending on external factors they may believe it’s more important, but you know within you that your priorities need to be set out a certain way, but it can often skew and you end up doing what they think is important and at the end of the day you’ve helped everyone else complete their tasks but nothing that you actually need to get done is getting done. So I always keep a notebook handy or a list of my items and then if something else pops up all I need to do is write it in at the bottom. I write or type in what that person needs and instead of dropping everything else and starting that task I just move it to the bottom of my line, finish what I’m doing and then analyse it and decide is this something that I need to do right now, or where should it go in my list of priorities. It’s also really good in the work zone / mode and there’s stuff to do and you discover that a nice idea comes into your head. We’ve all been there, we’ve been distracted, we’ve had priorities, we’re switching tasks back and forth and then something pops up and you minimise something, then you get a text message and you look at it 4, 5 or 6 hours later, oh that’s right, I was doing that. So we need to try and minimise that. So whenever I have an idea I have my idea book or journal handy and just write down the idea because I know I can come back to it later. It takes that pressure off my brain and that could work for you as well.


The second thing that you can do is to identify your productive time.   Although the traditional work / office times are 9am to 5pm, it’s not how we’re designed as humans to work. We have three different levels of productivity. There’s really focused time, then we have everyday sort of time and then we have unfocused time. We need to discover when we need the most brain power for each of these activities. So with the first one, when it’s super focused time, these are the critical tasks that need to get done and they need your maximum brain power to complete. For me, it’s early in the morning, between 6am and 10am that I do the large majority of my work because that’s when my mind is focused and it’s on. Then I usually have something to eat and later on my other block of super focused time is generally between 2pm and 5pm so I do my other focused work there. Then I plan around in different areas around those times. When am I going to check emails – emails are really overly intensive, you just scroll through, it doesn’t take up a lot of brain power so you might choose to do that just after lunch or first thing when you get into the office in the morning and you’ll find that by doing this, you’re not taking up too much brain power, you’re just scanning through them. If there’s something important you need to file that and put it into your priorities list and decide yes, this will take a lot of focus so you’ll put it into your focussed time rather than try and bang it out or try to put your energy into it when you aren’t in that zone. So I want you to start to realise the three different zones that we’re in and start to prioritise your work within that. So by the end of the day at 7.30 or 8.30 at night my brain is generally pretty toast so that’s the time I use to walk my dog or perhaps do some exercise that I haven’t done earlier in the day. That’s how you achieve real productivity and focus on the real tasks.


Now I’ve got a couple of strategies that have worked really well for me. One I mentioned yesterday is to use a timer, they call it the Pomodoro Technique which was invented in the 80’s. You simply have a timer and set it to 25 minutes. Studies have shown that by using a timer it puts our brain under pressure and by using that 25 minute block we can stay really focused, have a 5 minute break, go for a quick walk around the block, grab a drink of water, and then come back and do another 25 minute block. By working in these 25 minute blocks with a 5 minute block in between we can become really productive people.


The second strategy I want to talk to you about is what’s called the Power Hour. This is pretty much turning off all the distractions and setting yourself a task that you need to get done for one hour. It really helps break it down because you know there’s a start and end to it, and if you’re focused for that entire time just by setting it within your brain, you will actually get a lot done because you’ve told yourself you’re going to work for that hour and we might integrate a reward with it – if I do this then I will get this reward. Another trick that I’ve found to integrate within that is to play a song or an album that you’re very familiar with and goes for about 60 minutes, or a DJ set or whatever works for you. By doing this you’re automatically telling your brain ‘I only just have to get through this part of my day or my productivity as soon as this ends it signals that I’ve done something very important’. I always chuck on a 60 minute playlist, something I’m very familiar with so my brain’s not distracted – I know it goes for 60 minutes from start to end, so it’s something very visible, very tangible.


These are just a few techniques that I use. The Power Hour, the Pomodoro Technique, make sure you identify when you are most productive. If you’re not a morning person I believe I can change you and make you into a morning person. But if you’re not a morning person right now, stop trying to force it and making yourself a morning person or trying to be productive in the morning when you know that’s not your ideal time. If you’re most creative at 8 o’clock or 9 o’clock at night then that’s when you should do the majority of your work – your chunk in work at that time and I’ll talk a little bit more about that in future videos, how to get yourself into that zone. But for now, all you need to do is identify when you are most productive. The last thing is make sure you have that notebook handy for any ideas that pop into your head or other people’s priorities so you list them there and analyse how important they are.


Thanks for watching, I’m trying to keep this video quite short, up to 8 minutes. Any questions make sure you chuck them there and I’ll answer them after this video’s finished or if you want to see more of these videos jump over to . Thank you for watching. Enjoy your day. Ciao.

Removing distractions and creating focus around what ACTUALLY needs to be done.

In this episode I share with you the simplest strategies to move away from distractions and actually complete what is necessary.Distractions are everywhere and unless we have a plan to navigate them, we will constantly fall victim to them.

Learn how to do exactly that in this video.

PS Apologies about the audio sync....Facebook LIVE proving difficult unless wifi exists!


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Ladies and Gentlemen, Learn Share Grow live with Hayden Wilson. This is Episode 18 and today we’re talking all about removing distractions and how to create focus around what actually needs to be done I’m going to give you a few different strategies that you can implement, not only right away but I’m also going to give you the why behind it.


Thank you for joining me, as we go straight in, I’m going to show you graphics. What we’ve got here is the general office environment for most people. So you’ve got the little man or woman down here and their phone’s going off, emails are going off and they’ve got all of their social networks cranking up. There’s a line of people, music, noises in the background – everyone’s trying to steal a chunk to take a piece and utilise it for their own, I say selfish needs, but of course everyone has their own agenda. We live in a world with endless distractions and that creates a lack of focus which obviously in turn, creates a lack of results. I’m here today to teach you how to get those results by focusing your attention around things that we really need to do and that’s what we’ve been talking about all week, and today there are a ton more of strategies that I want to share with you.


To get a more realistic view on time I want you to start to have an awareness that time is a currency and the thing is, it’s a non renewable currency so you can’t go out there and earn more. One of the ways that I started to realise this is that are 24 hours in the day obviously, which equals 1,440 minutes which equals 86,400 seconds so by the time I said that and the time I said this, we’ve already used 5 seconds of time. Once you start to have an appreciation for quickly it starts to pass by and it doesn’t just roll over, so we can’t just take those 24 hours and tack them wherever we want or those 86,400 seconds into other areas of our life – once it’s gone, it’s gone – so we need to create that awareness of the non renewable resource of time.


The second thing that we need to realise in our why, why we’re being distracted is to discover the opportunity cost. The opportunity cost is what we’re giving up in relation to what we’ve chosen to do. It’s more of an economic term generally but it’s completely relevant to saying yes or no to different situations. So I want you to start identifying what you’re saying yes to, what you’re saying no to, and realise that these are all just blocks of time, everything should be seen and valued in blocks of time.


The last thing that we can do here, before I get onto the strategies of course, is to look at which areas of your life are pulling you away and actually distracting you. Once we can identify the different areas and elements in our life that are pulling us in what feels like these different directions and our priorities are all mixed up, little things, or big things in certain situations such as the environment – what sort of environment are you in, is it distracting, is there too much noise, is there not enough noise, a lot of people can actually work quite well to some white noise and I know there are some websites and digital radio stations out there that provide white noise in the background.


It might be interruptions – are you strong enough to have an interruption free zone, maybe you should put your headphones in when you’re working, maybe you work in an office environment where that’s okay; or another environment which signals to other people that you’re in the zone, you’re working hard and not looking to be distracted – even if you don’t have music on, it can be a cue that you’re busy and that you don’t have time to be distracted by other things – so give people that subtle message if you’re a little bit non confrontational and you don’t want to offend someone – we’ll get into that. Connection to the internet, your email might be going off, you might be checking your phone constantly – all of these are different contributing factors that allow our minds to be distracted away from what we should actually be doing and I know more than anyone how hard it can be to pull yourself out of a YouTube spiral or checking your phone which takes 2 seconds, but then you scroll down, put your thumb down and see the next lot of stories and if you find yourself doing that every ten minutes. Then two, three, four or five minutes go past and all of a sudden you’re typing a message to someone and you’ve totally forgotten about what you actually want to do. So be very careful on how you’re using the internet.


The last one is that you might be wasting time based on your “own needs”. I say that in quote marks because often we don’t know what our true needs are. I’ve covered a lot of that stuff in LSG Week 1 where I was talking all about habits – is it that we’re hungry, is it that we’re bored, there are always different factors that are trying to pull us away from what we actually need to do. So I want you to start to realise, what is it, what is my main goal. Once we can work out that main goal then we can start to set the priorities for weekly, hourly, daily tasks and understand what we actually need to get done. I have 15 hours of time allotted this week that I want to use for reading – where am I going to put them and what am I going to give up in order to get that. This whole week is about awareness on where your time is actually going so you can realise that in 168 hours in a week we do have time for sleep, time for reading, time to watch Hayden’s videos, time to spend time with our kids, time to watch movies, there’s a bunch of different stuff that we have time for, it’s just making sure that when we are working, we are actually at work.


This is what the best performers in the world do – they’re ruthless with their time. I’ve spent a lot of time with some very successful people and they are ruthless, they don’t give away their time easily - that’s not to say that they’re not generous when they are with you – when they’ve planned to see you they’re 100% with you, and that’s what I want you to do with your life. When you’re in, you’re all in. Rather than sitting there on your phone when you’re trying to have a conversation with your missus and you’re not really present, make sure that you allow that time and give that person 100% of your attention when you are with them, and when you’re not, then you can really focus 100% on the task that you’re doing and that will make you a lot more effective.


So now I want to share with you a couple of pretty confronting tasks. The first one is what I call the life expectancy wakeup call. There is a website called and if you go in there, there’s a section where you can choose to have a countdown timer. This is a huge, huge wakeup call because the average life expectancy for someone born between 1960 and 2000, the average - females will live a little bit longer, but males and females - is about 77 or 78 years. So I want you to go into that website and put in your birthday when you turn 78. What this website does is give you a countdown timer of exactly how long, in seconds, you’ve got to live. Trust me, when you see this, when you see the numbers counting down it really gives you a new appreciation of how much time we have left on this planet, as an average. It’s a big wakeup call and something that you can really benefit from immediately.


The second thing that I want you to adhere to is what I call, the five day ‘no’ challenge. There are a lot of people out there right now saying that you need to say no and whatnot. I’ve tried to present a couple arguments for why you do need to start learning to say no and I’m going to give you five days to really look into yourself, pleasing yourself first, and every time someone asks you to do something I want you to ask yourself ‘is this going to help me reach my goal?’ Because we’ve already set our goal, we know what needs to be done, so is this going to move me forward towards my goal? When someone asks me to go to the movies, or someone asks me to do something that I may not necessarily want to do – can you help me do this, can you help me move (of course there are different situations when you do have to help) but then there are situations where your time isn’t best utilised in that area and you need to learn how to say no to certain situations. So I want to you give you the five day no challenge where every time you’re asked a request you need to discipline yourself and think is this going to move me towards my ultimate goal.


The third bunch of strategies I’m going to show you is three killer strategies that I’ve used and you can implement immediately - you can implement them as soon as we get off this video to create more focus around what you actually want to do and start to utilise that time better. The first one is to use aeroplane mode on your phone. Quite often I’ll whip out my phone in the morning and decide I want to do an hour of solid work, I flip my iphone up and press the aeroplane mode button and immediately, no calls can come in, no emails can come in, and the reality is I’ve got voicemail so if someone needs to reach me, an hour isn’t really going to affect too much time. You can play tricks on yourself and say, oh what if someone died or what if there’s an emergency situation, but in reality, we need to set that time away for ourselves and get a good voicemail system and allow ourselves to switch off and tune out, and get a grip on what actually needs to be done, so utilise aeroplane mode.


The second thing that you can do, is to use a timer. I don’t have my timer with me this very second, but it’s just a cheap e-bay $3 timer and I will set it to 30 minutes, 60 minutes, however long I think the task should take and then I will turn off all my distractions, I don’t have my phone notifications on, I don’t have my email notifications on – while I have that 60 minutes going, I work. I’ve found that using the time pressures and there’s also a website, they’ll do a similar thing. I’ve found that when I have the timer I’m a lot more receptive and a lot more aware of how much time actually left to do that task, so jump onto e-bay and definitely pick up a very cheap timer – it’s one of the best investments you’ll make and it will allow you to create that focus much more in your life.


The third thing I want you to do, and I touched on this in my last point, is to turn off the distractions. You don’t need to have the facebook notifications going off – the ding. Remember last week we talked about dopamine dropping, when we talked about willpower, how every time we get a notification our dopamine levels rise and we get excited about what could be there, the potential news. You don’t need that on. If you’re trying to create focus and actually get results, we don’t need that dopamine hit. Stop using it as a false sense of excitement – turn them off, turn your phone notifications off. I turn off all my email notifications unless I choose to receive them on my phone, I don’t have them coming through because it’s a distraction. Turn off the alerts in facebook, Instagram, twitter, all those things, just switch them off, even if it’s just for the hour, two hours, three hours that you actually want to get things done.


I guarantee you that by implementing just those three strategies you’ll be a lot more effective in your life, you’ll start to get a lot more done and start to become a super producer as I call it.


So if there are any questions make sure you chuck them on the right hand side. Otherwise I’ll have all this information and a transcription available on and we also have a podcast on itunes so I would really appreciate any downloads or sharing of this information. If you like any of the content I put out and you think it’s useful and you know someone who could benefit from it please feel free to share it with them and tag them in it. If there are no questions I’m going to jump off now and I’ll see you again next time - tomorrow when we are going to talk more about time management. I’ll have a bunch more of strategies to share with you. Troy says he’s got 17,435 days to live – awesome Troy, I’m glad you did that exercise because it’s a real wakeup call. Anyone else who wants to do that, head on over to and count down the rest of the days of your life, it’s a real wakeup call. Until next time, Ciao.

How to Create a To-Do List that actually gets RESULTS.

Most people's to do lists are either non-existent, or 200 items long.  Both of these generally result in the essential items being missed, and the easy stuff being done instead. Let me show you how you should really be creating your to do list which focuses on big ticket items and actually getting results.


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Ladies and Gentlemen, Hayden Wilson here for Learn Share Grow live. This is Episode number 19 and today we’re still talking about time management. Today I’m going to speak to you about how to create a To-Do list that generates results that you can actually follow through with.


Basically, there are two types of people – I’m going to zoom my camera in – what you’ll find is there are lots of people. The one person on the left decides that he is just going to try and remember everything and on the right hand side you’ve got a person who has a long list of To-Do list items. Most people have what seems to be an ever growing list of To-Do’s and I’m here to share with you some strategies on how you can actually prioritise the different parts of that list and start to realise that these certain things don’t need to be done at this time and the list can be managed in a different way.


Most people’s To-Do lists are too long, there are no priorities built into them. There are mixed agendas within them and there are also unimportant items. All this leads to that feeling of being overwhelmed – so much to do, not enough time. This leads to stress and what happens when we are stressed - we start to procrastinate and do things that we shouldn’t do because that’s where the comfort lies. Our brain, our psychology, wants us to live in that comfort zone where things are easy. they’re good and we know what we’re doing, but to actually make progress we need to step out of that comfort zone and start to do things that actually need to be done – and that’s why I’m here.


So what I’m going to get you to do – if I just zoom in, I’m not sure if you can see it – I need you to make three lists. The first one, and this is an idea that comes from Graham Allcott – he’s a productivity manager in the UK. What he suggests is that you have three different lists and this is what I’m going to take you through. The first one is your major projects, so this might be move house; plan to host an event in April; or to complete a research assignment. Where most people go wrong is they mix their major projects which is the overarching theme of the different elements of their life, then they mix in their master actions which are the individual items to get the major projects done, and then they have a To-Do list which is a collaboration of pretty much everything that they need to do, but there’s no priority, no order and it just ends of being chaos.


So what I’m going to share with you is in our major projects, let’s take an example of moving house. What I need you to do is to break down all the steps required to actually move house. Because if you just have ‘move house’ or ‘plan to move house’ on your To-Do list, it’s extremely overwhelming because we know there are so many different tasks. So if I said to you do you want to plan to move house, or do you want to organise lunches for next week, of course the brain inherently wants to go to the easiest task as I mentioned earlier. So you need to make it easier on your brain to get stuff done by listing out all the master actions. So for example, say I’ve got ‘move house’ here as one of my major projects, the next thing I’m going to do is break it down into every single step. Here I’ve got four examples. Research schools - you need to know the levels of education for your children or maybe you want to go to University, so you need to look at the different schools that are around. So I want you to go on google and look for what schools would be appropriate for me. That is one item on your master actions list that we can then cross off or give a big tick off. I’m going to talk about why that’s important in a minute.


Then you need to think about redirecting all your different mail; you need to think about organising removalists; you perhaps need to book a pet sitter. These are all the little things that you wouldn’t realise unless you break them down by just having a major project. It’s very overwhelming, we need to break it down into the master actions.


So for each of our major projects I need you to break down all the different tasks that you need to complete to get that finished. Then, that will create your master actions list but this isn’t going to be enough. Without this there is still going to be chaos and no order so the next step from having this list and I usually break it down into headings and sub headings. The major heading is the project, then I have the sub headings, and then I give each one a priority – this is the major benefit of using this system, you must give them a priority. Without the priorities we’re just going to default to whatever’s easiest. We don’t think of the longer term. What I want you to do is think about managing tasks. The feeling of being overwhelmed comes from this whole big project that we need to complete, such as moving house – it’s very overwhelming, but when you break it down into these smaller tasks it’s a lot more manageable. We can start to foresee what needs to be done to get that end result. Always think of the end result but think of it in terms of the actions required rather than everything done at once.


So we have a list of master actions then give each one a number. There will be things in this list that you can and can’t do at this very present time and this is where a lot of people go wrong. They may have a list of 30, 40 of 50 items because they have too many things that they think are urgent and need to be done. We spend a lot of time creating these lists and getting this feeling of productivity when we having actually done anything. The actual work comes from completing these tasks, not planning them. I love planning, don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge planner, but when I used to use this huge To-Do list – and I know this from experience – I used to put on the stupidest things just to give myself the dopamine release of crossing off an item or giving it a tick – I used to feel good about myself for completing the smallest of tasks, brushing my teeth or taking my dog for a walk, things that you should just be doing anyway. So don’t put those types of things on your master actions list because they’re just items that you should be doing in your everyday life.


Once we have all of our priorities you’re going to find that some can be done right now and some we can leave for others. I’m going to give you a few strategies on how you can get projects moving forward from other people. It can be a huge time burden when we have to wait for others to deliver our project. But what we’re going to do is take all the things that can be done right now and put them in our To-Do-Now list. This is going to create a much more concise list of items that we can actually do because if you have everything it’s very daunting to try and do everything, there are different parts and pieces, you need to wait for people, oh I need to wait for this, oh while I’m waiting for that I’ll just jump on facebook or I’ll just check my emails – this is what I want you to avoid, because that stuff, while it’s great and it’s enjoyable, it doesn’t actually get the result that we need. So once we prioritise them, I want you to work relentlessly and from start to end I want you to work through one of those priorities. Then once you finish that, move on to number 2, then move onto number 3. This is the only way that stuff truly gets done.


So that’s what you need to do. Firstly, create your three lists. The second thing I want to share with you – I’ll just grab my worksheet – when I’m waiting on items from others, I created a Due-From-Others list and this is an idea I got from a real estate guru John McGrath when I was listening to one of his podcasts. If you can see it, you’ve got the item description; you’ve got the Due From which is where you put the name; the expected date; and then lastly, you’ve got the follow up. Then what I want you to do, for everything that you are waiting for someone on, I want you to chuck that in the item description. Then in the next column you are going to say who it’s from then you’re going to talk about in the expected date - with every task you must set a date with that person, when can I see it, when will you be able to finish it, will you have that ready for me next Thursday, suggest a date – that’s always a good trick. Then, if they haven’t delivered, that’s what the follow up column is for. I want you to put a date, two or three days afterwards, or a tick that you have followed up or you’re going to follow up and when the new expected date is. This is a great way to track what items are incoming and what you awaiting because a lot of our time can be spent waiting for things from different people and this gives us a skewed sense of productivity because in our minds we’re thinking I can complete this but I have to wait for that so we’re passing the blame or responsibility – if you look back to your master actions there are a ton of other things that you can be getting done in different areas.


The third thing I want to talk to you about is what I call the Two Minute Rule. I adapted this from Tim Ferriss who is a productivity guru and a great mentor through books of mine – what Tim suggests if you can action the item right now - say an email or an SMS comes into your inbox or a phone call, which are all distractions by the way - but if you can action that within two minutes and find a resolution then the rule is, you just do it, just get it done because having 30 of those items, or 10 of those items even, 10 two minute items, you can just bang them out as you go, or they start to build up and accumulate then we get that same sense of feeling overwhelmed. A lot of people treat their inbox as their To-Do list and we have items on there from 5 days ago, 10 days ago, 3 months ago¸ and if we really look at it, there are things that we can action straight away. So every time something quick comes into your inbox or phone, if it takes less than two minutes you just need to action it. So that’s the Two Minute Rule.


Make sure you use your Due-From-Others list – it’s been amazing for any times I’ve needed to get some follow up on an item that I have created or I’m waiting for something on. Also, obviously, the main part of this video is to show you about the major projects which is the overarching theme of what you want to get done; the master actions which are all of the individual steps; and then from there prioritise; and create your To-Do-Now list.


Hope this helps. If you need any help, jump over to . Otherwise, I’ll see you on the next video. Ciao.

How to Reduce Stress and Feelings of Overwhelm (even when there is still lots to do)

Welcome to Episode 17 of Learn Share Grow where today I will be teaching you how to reduce your stress levels through ensuring you're doing those big ticket items, over simply doing more for more sakes. I have a few activities that I share with you at the end of the episode and you can even download a great worksheet to help you with the 'Reverse 168' exercise I mention.

If you're constantly having feelings of overwhelm, time running out, and a lack of control....this is the perfect episode for you.


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This is Episode 17 and today we’re still talking about time management. We’re talking about how to reduce stress and those feelings of overwhelm even when there’s a lot to do. We all know those feelings, when our diaries are piling up and there’s appointment on appointment and there’s still the washing to be done, or you need to cook meals. There’s always a ton of stuff that we feel need to get done but it just seems like we’re always running out of time. In this video I’m going to show you how to take back some of that time and really concentrate on the tasks that are important to you.


Basically, where does stress stem from? In today’s video we’re not going to talk about where it deeply comes from but we’ll stay on the surface, you know, the feelings of stress, overwhelm, that lack of time, the feelings of self doubt that I know we all have, that no control, and also that feeling of spinning our wheels and not really getting anywhere no matter how much effort we put in. But why do we get those feelings? Basically, it’s from a feeling of lack of control so as soon as we can take that control back and put a plan into action, we can start to realise that these tasks are achievable and if we break them down we can actually start to achieve the end result which is what we want. Once we have an awareness of stress and what a stressful situation is – I spoke to a good mentor of mine, Craig Harper, a couple of weeks ago and he was giving me this analogy of there are actually no stressful situations and I’m going to take you in because I’ve done a little drawing here. My drawing here is of an emergency room and this is what Craig told me, the analogy he gave me. On the left hand side you’ve got a stressed out situation. You can see the patient down here, bleeding quite heavily. The doctor over here is yelling out and the nurse and the anaesthetist is saying help me. In that situation would you want stress to creep in? Do you think that’s exactly how a surgery room or emergency theatre would be? Or do you think it would be more like this with soothing music, everything’s under control and our patient down there is connected to the drip and the nurse and anaesthetist are congratulating him. So as you can see by these elaborate drawings, or if you’re just listening, you can check out that picture on my web site, but there are no stressful situations, it’s how we manage that stress and how we can put plans into action and realise that there’s enough time to get everything done – it’s just making sure we’re putting out time into the right blocks. Yesterday I gave you an exercise which will help you realise where you should be putting your time and where you should be delegating and what you should not be doing. So you if can check it out - it’s available on my website .


Today we’re going to be talking about a few strategies – I’ve got three to share with you which can help you allocate time in the right areas and make sure that you are managing your stress so you can achieve the most and get the critical tasks done. So, as you can see here, I’ve got what I call the vital three. That’s your diet, your exercise and your sleep. Sleep we’re finding is very, very important. There are people out there who are talking about the hustle and the grind and they’re working from 5.00am to 12.00am at night and not getting any sleep – that’s great in the early stages, but once you realise that it might not necessarily have to be that bad and if we put our time into the right areas we can achieve a much better result much faster. So I want you look at how much sleep you’re getting. The average is 8 hours sleep, maybe you need 7, maybe your need 9. Look at how you’re performing, because I can tell you from experience, when you only get 5 or 6 hours sleep, our brain shuts off the glucose and blood sugar receptors, so even if we try to have caffeine or something sugary to pike us up, the receptors are closed, so not even caffeine or sugary treats and drinks will increase our energy so the only thing that helps us is more sleep so I want you to get your sleep in order. The next thing is that you should be exercising – at least 30 minutes at a time, 3 times, 5, 6 or even 7 times a week – go for a walk, get in the gym, pump some weights, do some cardio – there’s a bunch of strategies I could share with you around that. The last thing is to get your diet in check, so only eat healthy, nutritious foods – you know the deal, this isn’t about that. This is about getting the vital three in place so you can have more time and be a more efficient person and actually achieve what you want to achieve in the right timeframes.


The second exercise I want you to do here is what I call the Reverse 168. We have 168 hours every week and believe it or not, we can actually find times within our life that we didn’t even know really existed and times when you sit on the phone for half an hour can be used in other productive areas. I’m not saying you don’t have to go on your phone but we find specific areas where you can improve time and still do the things that you want to do, whether that be checking facebook or watching the latest TV series. I’m not here to guru you on not doing that, or to hustle down. I’m here to help you achieve more time to do what you actually want to do, whether that be as I said watching a TV show, of maybe it’s going to the beach with your family rather than doing those extra reports at night. Maybe you need to think what are those reports for. That’s what I’m trying to get out of you.


So the first thing that you need to do with the Reverse 168 is – yesterday I shared a worksheet with you, and you can download that – and it’s about what tasks we are actually doing. What tasks do we really need to get done every single week and we categorise these into three columns - what really needs to be done 100%; what we can delegate; and what we shouldn’t be doing. With the first column I want you to do – and you can download this new worksheet on my website – and down below in the comments when this video is finished – it’s a timetable. I want you to go in here and fill out everywhere you do something. If you’re exercising at 5.00am in the morning or doing a morning miracle routine, which I’m a big fan of, you put that there on the 5 o’clock column, and then you might decide that you want to have lunch between 12 and 12.30 every day, so put that there. Then input all the other essential tasks that you have to get done and start plonking them in. Maybe you’ve got clients in one area, maybe you want to spend Wednesday evenings with your girlfriend or boyfriend, and start to look for the gaps – we can see the white space everywhere and start to make appointments with yourself – you might want to use that time for reading and levelling up. You might want to keep 2 o’clock free so you can start watching more of my videos. You’ll start to realise how much time we really do have and even when we have a 40 or 50 hour job you can still find time within your routine – as long as we’re aware of where we’re at in our situation and how we can make time for the things that we actually want to get done. That’s why it’s really important that we do the first task first so we can realise what we should and shouldn’t be doing and where can we put it in our diary.


The last strategy I want to take you through is that there are a bunch of meditation apps. Meditation was traditionally a bit woo woo and people really weren’t realising the benefits of meditation. I’ve just recently started to get into it and I can tell you my stress levels and the effectiveness that I’ve been able to implement is through the roof because I’m more calm, I’m more relaxed. When situations arise I’m able to see them more strategically and look at them from a different point of view rather than always being in a rush and a mess and having those stress levels because they’re terrible for productivity.


So there are a couple of recommendations I have. There’s one is called ‘Calm’ which is the one I use. There’s also one called ‘Headspace’ and I haven’t used but it has excellent reports by guys like Tim Ferris. But I haven’t used that so I can’t vouch for that one. But ‘Calm’ is excellent, I’m on a very small subscription and it’s got a ton of different programs that you can look into so grab that, I’m sure it’s on the android store and also on the iTunes store. Another recommendation that’s worked really well for me – YouTube has a bunch of clips that you can have – if you sleep with your phone in your room which I’m not a big advocate of, but obviously baby steps, but you can have nice soothing waves playing in the background, you can search for rainforest sounds, rain on a tin roof, or maybe you just want nature sounds. You can use these sounds to help you relax at night time and I find, I have magnesium just before bed, I find that magnesium, plus lying down and having these soothing sounds has helped reduce my stress levels so I wake up every morning refreshed and ready to go, and my stress levels are greatly reduced. I get to sleep faster because I have this routine and the meditation and the rainforest sounds in my head and I can just tune out and that starts to build routines so I have more time to do the things that I want to do.


So I hope this helps. I’m going to have the worksheets down below for you. If you have any questions please send them to . Otherwise if these videos help you or you think someone could start to use their time better or you know a friend who’s stressed please share this video with them, I’m sure they could benefit from the worksheets or the information I’ve shared. Otherwise I will talk to you all again tomorrow when we talk more about time management.



How To Value Your Time (A Non Re-newable Resource) - LSG Episode 16

LSG Episode 16 - Time Management In this episode I cover the basics of how you can start to value your time and get the most from yourself.

By valuing your time and focusing on your key activities, you can increase your effectiveness within the marketplace, demand higher income which leads to higher discretionary time, so you can do more of what you want....

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Ladies and Gentlemen, Learn Share Grow live with Hayden Wilson.

This is Episode 16 and all week we’re going to be talking about time management. I’m going to give you a ton of strategies, this week is going to be packed full of information on how you can start utilising your time better and in particular, in this first episode, we’re going to talk about how you can go about managing your time better.

The truth is, most people don’t know how to value their time and in effect, they end up working for free or doing tasks that they are no longer are utilised best in and that’s obviously a waste of time, so the more you can utilise your time in the tasks that you want to do, that means you’ve got more time to do the tasks that you truly want to do and get away from stuff you really don’t want to do.

Basically, most people go off what the market price is and what they should be charging.

To elevate yourself I want you to ask the question why? Why can some people only achieve the minimum wage or $15 per hour but then you’ve got management consultants who are charging $1,000 an hour or $5,000, $20,000 a day.

What is it about these people that allows them to charge this amount? The answer is it all comes down to realising your value and creating value in the world.

As you can see on my graph here, you’ve got value on the left hand axis and then down the bottom, on the horizontal axis, you’ve got money in return and then there’s a linear progression so down the bottom, the least amount of value provides the least amount of money.

The highest amount of value equals the highest amount of money. So the more value you can provide into the world, the more money you can have. In turn, by only doing the valuable things, the valuable tasks in your life that means you’ve got more time to work on the stuff you actually want to do and participate. That might be enjoying your time with friends because you’re more effective doing the things that you need to do, then you have more time with those friends.

So basically, the two different types of work that we can participate in and spend our time – you can do it using knowledge based tasks or you can use your time in process based tasks. Most of the time a business owner, the employer, will act with creativity, they’ll use their thinking power and a lot more decision making, these are the skills that they need to have.

The reality is that the income is uncapped when you’re in this zone here. Process workers, those who work in factories, manufacturing environments, those who don’t necessarily have to use their thinking power or their brain – and I say this with the utmost respect – but the monkey tasks or the tasks that are repetitive or monotonous, they are capped activities.

The market will determine how much they pay for a particular item, for a particular task to be done – your goal is to take as many of these process related activities down to a minimum and increase your knowledge power.

A very clear example of this, is that you are watching this right now so obviously you want to improve your knowledge and your creativity, and the way that you think simply by watching this video with me.

So as we move over here I want to give you a really good example and an activity, if I get my worksheets – this activity will help you get better at allocating your time and realise the benefits of doing specific tasks and staying away from the ones that aren’t so good. This worksheet will be available as a downloadable on our website (it is above)

Basically I want you to make a list of all the different tasks that you complete over a certain period, say a certain week. So you’ve got Monday to Friday if you work Monday to Friday, or you work like me and work the seven days, or six days, depending on how I feel you will only have to write in six days worth.

I want you write down all the tasks that you participate in during a week and the activities that you currently do. We’re not looking at what we’re going to do in the future - I want you to be realistic and truthful in what you’re writing down here.

Then once we have all our tasks, I want you to categorise them into A’s, B’s and C’s.

What you’re going to have is three columns and basically what they’re going to do is, you have the first one is that you do well and that you must do. You as a business owner, must do these activities, so your direction of the company, your leadership values, the thinking, the market research – all that sort of stuff that you do and are good at, you should be doing more of that.

The second thing, the B column is that you should delegate. These are things that you might be good at but you might not necessarily or should be doing, for example the bookkeeping. As a business owner you probably shouldn’t be doing the bookkeeping beyond the first two or three months of the business. Find someone else who can do it because a task that costs $20 an hour is far less valuable than your time. You need to be doing the tasks that are worth a $100 dollars, a $1,000 an hour – the bigger tasks that are going to help move your business forward and keep ahead of your competitors. I always think what would my competitor be doing, are they going to work on this?

Or have another analogy, I have a thing above my laptop screen and it says WWJPDO and JP is one of my mentors so it’s like what would he do in this situation, would he be doing this, would he be working on these tasks?

He’s worth x amount per hour, I want to be worth that. If he’s not doing that why would I be doing that? That’s the attitude I want you to have. Think about the tasks that you can delegate and about a major task list, and put it into your delegation task list.

The third column that you have there are tasks that you will not do anymore. I want you to make a commitment that you are not going to be doing these tasks any more. You don’t need to be checking facebook, or maybe you’re at a stage where you don’t need to be checking your emails, maybe you can have someone or turn on the scam filter, or get someone else to look into that for you.

Start to reduce the activities that you plain do not need to be doing, whether that be cooking, maybe you hire someone or maybe have some of those means, I know there are a ton of meals that have a delivery program now that you can start to implement and that’s going to save you time. Essentially you’re buying someone else’s time because you value your time so much that you can no longer afford to be working on those smaller, meaningless tasks.

I have a question here – Hayden, my granddaughter Georgia asks why doesn’t Hayden have a girlfriend, is he just too busy or does he have the time? Good question, we’ll leave that one for another day.

This basically is a killer sheet and I’ll have it available in the downloads as soon as you finish watching this video, I should be able to get that up. If you have any question, chuck them in the right hand side or down below.

This is a terrific activity.

The first step that you need to do is work out what tasks what tasks you’re actually doing. The second step is to categorise them into the three areas, what are you doing, what shouldn’t you be doing and what do you do well.

Once you realise that you are valuable and you have skills in a specific area, start doing more of those because the more that you can do of those killer key activities, the more that you’re going to earn and that gives you more discretionary time to work on stuff that you actually want to work on and you can provide the most value into the world.

I hope this helps.

If you want to share this video and get the message out on how other people can start to value their time better, I’d really appreciate it.

Otherwise I’ll catch you all soon and look out below for the link to the worksheet.


Increasing Your Self Worth (4 Simple Strategies)

Welcome to Learn Share Grow with Hayden Wilson.  Today we are talking all about self worth and how you can improve your value in the market place, develop your self confidence and consequently, your self worth. I struggled with my own self worth for a long time (and still do from time to time).  Which is how I developed these strategies.

Today we go over 4 of these tried and tested strategies to help you with it, and also help you understand where your skill set lies.

We also cover the difference between traits and skills, followed by some exercises you can try to get your self worth up.


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Hey guys, Hayden Wilson here and welcome to Learn Share Grow live, Episode 14. Today we are talking all about self development in you and self worth.

So I want to speak to you about how you can develop your self worth and I’ve got four strategies to share with you today around this topic and they are very actionable so you can learn them quite quickly and can implement them straight away. The first thing that I want to talk about here is to make a skills list.

When you are creating your skills list you need to be aware that there are two different things here. By looking to increase your self worth you need to be aware of what you’re actually good at, where your skills lie.

The fallacy that most people fall into is, not knowing the difference between skills and traits. So, we’ve got traits, such as, you might be friendly, you might be an honest person, you might be approachable – these are all great traits to have, they’re usually inherent in your personality, you’ve grown up with them and you’ve developed them that way but then you’ve got skills – you’ve actively developed those skills such as communication skills, analytical skills, or coaching - you might be a good coach, or a PT for example – you’ve developed these skills that aren’t inherently given to you when you were younger.

So what I want you to do, to increase your self worth and self awareness on what you are actually good at and when you can provide value into the world, is just sit down with a pen and paper and for half an hour – have a coffee with you – and sit down and detail, write down the numbers 1 – 20 and you can decide where you are providing value into the world and what is different about you.

Why are you different because everyone’s got something different about them. I might be good in a certain area and I might come up confident in front of the camera because I’ve developed that skill and now that is valuable to the market place. You might be much better at something than me.

For example, you might know how to get someone super duper lean. These are the skills and that means your self worth for that particular area should be a lot higher because you have those skills, you’ve developed those skills. So once you start to realise why you’re better in specific areas than other people – and it’s not better in an arrogant way, it’s knowing your skills set and knowing the value that you can provide into the world. The second thing that I want you to do is to carry yourself with success. So when you look good, you feel good.

When you feel good, you give good. When you give good, you receive good. I heard this from my good friend Liz who I’ve written a couple of blogs about and she’s a phenomenal person, and she started taking notice of how I was carrying myself around situations when I was with her.

I started dressing nicer, I started speaking nicer. I would lift my chest up and walk with purpose. I want you to start walking faster – I know it sounds strange, but when you start walking faster people start thinking, hmm he has something on his mind and inherently, pretty much by tricking yourself, you have somewhere important to be. So get moving, move 20% quicker than other people, run up the stairs. All these little things can start to separate yourself and elevate your own self worth.

You can start thinking that you’re higher – and again, not in an arrogant way, it’s knowing your value in the world.

The next thing that I want you to do is inform the PPO policy which is Positive People Only. So I want you to look at who you hang around – the cliché is that you are the sum of the five people that you spend the most time with. So I really want you to look at the five people you spend the most time with and ask yourself are these people helping me to reach my goals, or are they cancer and do I need to cut them off.

Unfortunately, there have been people in my life and I’m sure there will be some in yours, there have been people who aren’t positive for what you need and what area or stage you’re at in your life – sometimes we realise early on that these people aren’t healthy for us, sometimes it can take a couple of years, but if you haven’t got into that mindset of positive people only, then you need to get there because once you start surrounding yourself with positive people everything else starts to fall in place and these people want to help you reach your goals and they will start to see your passion for specific areas. Once you can drive that passion then you can start seeing your value and of course, your worth then your confidence goes up.

Everything is attributing to you providing more value into the world and you’ll start to see yourself in a more positive light. So surround yourself with the best possible people. The fourth thing I want you to do is make a proud list. I’ve been doing this at night time.

Usually I journal in the morning but sometimes at night time I will write a journal which is what I’m proud of and it starts to build awareness – even small things that I’ve done, maybe someone has dropped $5 for example, and you hand it back to them.

Or maybe someone doesn’t check up on something and rather than letting it go, you start to fill in, you’ve done the right thing, you’re proud of yourself for stepping up and doing what normal people, what you might not normally do. But now, you’re acting in that way, being a leader, showing people, leading by example, that these are the little things that you can do and just start detailing them.

What this is going to do is help you build an awareness over the small things that do make a difference and do build up your self worth. You need to create these habits and the more you do it, the more you’re going to see these routines, then you can just replicate it and start repeating what is it about you that is giving you that sense of self worth and how can we do more of it.

So the four things I want to go over are make your skills list; to carry yourself with success – remember chest up, walk faster, you’ve got somewhere to be, you’re important; positive people only, surround yourself with the best possible people, the five people that you are around who you are going to model yourself on, find mentors, find people who have achieved greater success than you and start asking questions and follow up on their advice; and the fourth thing was to make a proud list – at night time just detail 2 ­- 3 things that have made you proud, that you have done yourself, that you know are the right thing to do, and by this we are going to see the patterns.

Thanks for watching. If you have any questions just chuck them in the comments box on the side.

Today we’re also doing because I had a give-away last week for a phenomenal book, Kelly McGonigal’s ‘The Will Power Instinct’ and I have three copies to give away.

The winners for those simply had to share a video posted previously on my fan page, and that’s a whole different kettle of fish, the three winners are: Alex – congratulations, Jen and Kristy. Guys I will be messaging you and getting your addresses so I can shoot out this phenomenal book.

For anyone watching who is interested in more competitions, there are definitely some more coming up, you just have to tune in and share the word because I love spreading the message of learning and sharing and growing and I need your help also.

Sally has just said thanks Hayden, some really good points, will definitely try these. Awesome Sally, you’re going to benefit a lot from these, I know that because you’re quite a positive person, I see what you put up, and you’ve doing really well so good luck.

If you have any questions or if anyone else has any questions, feel free to ask me, I’m more than happy to help out

So, that is how we develop our self worth.

If you have any questions let me know.

Otherwise, Ciao.