Overcoming Anxiety and Overwhelm as a Business Owner

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As life (and business) gets busier and busier, now more than ever, business owners all around Australia are reporting they are feeling the effects and deathly grip known as anxiety and overwhelm.

Today, I want to share with you a very practical system that you can use every time you feel stuck on the inside of your business.

Before we even begin, I want to put your mind to ease. As a business owner, feeling anxious, overwhelmed and discouraged at times is 100% normal. Anyone who has been in business for more than 30 days knows this.

The realities are, that business is hard. If you’re striving for delivering more value than anyone else in your marketplace, then it’s natural that you are going to be pushing your limits. But if you don’t have a system to manage this process, what ends up happening is you’ll start spending too much time worrying, and not enough time winning.

It’s my goal to help you navigate the feelings of anxiety and overwhelm as a business owner, so you can get back on track to win.

While many may attempt to complicate it, anxiety is actually very simply defined. It’s fearing that somewhere in the future you will experience more pain than pleasure.

Now, these feelings might be rational or irrational, imagined or real. But in any case, the result for you is the’re stuck, suffering and have no idea what to do next!

The good news is, below I have prepared a simple system for you to follow and implement. This means you’ll now have the tools to free yourself from feeling stuck, and actually get moving again.

Let’s do it.

Step 1: Identify What is Causing the Anxiety

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The first thing you’ll want to do, is get really clear on what is causing the problem. Ask yourself a series of questions (sample below), until you’ve clearly identified what the problem actually is.

To do this, I recommend you use your $5 psychologist (a $5 hardcover journal you can carry everywhere you go) and write (+ answer) the following questions.

Keep writing until you feel confident you know you’ve ‘got it’

  • What is truly causing this challenge?

  • What is it I am avoiding?

  • What am I really fearing here?

  • Why am I feeling this way?

You may wish to bullet point your answers, or have a conversation with yourself. Either way, the goal is the same: find the root cause.

(Note: These questions are purposely asking the same question in different ways. This is designed to help you see the problem from slightly different angles. You do not have to answer all four, but instead, just ask one at a time until you’ve nailed the problem.)

Step 2: What is the Goal?


Now you’ve identified what is causing the issue, you’ll notice the reason you’re feeling anxious about it, is that you’re not where you’d like to be.

You may not be making the money you’d like make, you may not be attracting the quality leads that you’d love to turn a healthy profit, or maybe you’re just overwhelmed with the entire process.

In any case, if you want to start making progress again and breakthrough this plateau, you must define the goal.

What I’ve found from working with service based business owners from a variety of industries, is very often, more than 50% of the anxiety and overwhelm they’re feeling, is due to a lack of clarity over what the actual goal is.

So what is your goal?

  • How much money do you want to make?

  • How many clients do you want to work with each day, week, month and year?

  • How big do you want your business

  • What does a perfect business look like for you?

We’re going to get to the planning section next, but if you don’t define where you want to be before moving on, you won’t be able to solve the problem.  

Take the time to discover what success looks like for you.

Step 3: Build An Action Plan


OK, you’ve now discovered the cause of your anxiety and overwhelm, and also identified where you would like to be (your goal), it’s time to now build the plan to get you there.

To help in this process, I want you to think about the last three big things you’ve accomplished in your life. Anything that you’re proud of yourself for achieving.

Now I want you to ask yourself, how many of these happened by accident? The answer will always be zero. Anything worthwhile that you’ve achieved once started with a plan. That plan was then acted up, and eventually, through hard work, persistence and some creative thought, it resulted in an outcome. It’s simple. Plans work.

It’s true that success is never linear, and that in pursuit of a goal, you’ll often be taken off the original path (in order to learn some necessary lessons along your personal journey), but the one thing I know about success for sure is if you don’t have a plan to achieve it, you’ll never get there.

To do this, you’ll need to think about where you are now, where you want to be (both defined in steps 1 and 2) and then brainstorm every step in the process to get there.

This will take work. New results require new thinking.

Again, using your journal, outline, brainstorm and detail the elements of the plan to get clear on the action steps (inputs) required. While the outcome is what you desire, that is not within your control. Inputs however are. And those are what’s going to make it happen.

For example, let’s just say your goal was to earn $200,000 in personal income, here are some of the elements that need to go into your plan…

  • How many clients do I need per week/month/year to make this?

  • How many products to do I need to sell?

  • How many appointments do I need to set each week/month?

  • How will I secure those appointments?

  • How much will I invest into marketing, advertising, savings, and growth?

Keep thinking until you have clarity over the steps and build it into a plan to help you get there.

Step 4: Tracking Progress


Lastly, if you want to ensure you’re winning, you must keep on top of progress. This is the step that most people neglect. They might enjoy the planning process, or the actioning, but when it comes to reviewing and tracking, many shy away from it. It’s most likely because in the beginning, it’s easy to get away with NOT doing this. Because the little things are just that...little.

As Jim Rohn says: ‘the easiest things to do, are also the easiest things NOT to do.’

Soon enough however, from little things, big things grow. And like a snowball rolling down a mountain, small problems neglected start to gain significant momentum. Soon enough, just like that snowball, those small things become very difficult to stop.

When I first started in my business, no-one showed me the crucial numbers to track. I really was flying blind a lot of the time, and was just using my bank account at the end of the month to track whether I was doing good, or doing bad. That’s a terrible way to run a business.

To help you avoid that pain of confusion and anxiety around not knowing how you’re doing, I want to share with you the crucial numbers you’ll want to track on the inside of your business if you wish to stay on top of things.

Here is a snapshot of what I (and all of my clients) fill in weekly. You may wish to start using something similar in your business. I promise you it will remove a huge chunk of your anxiety and overwhelm around the numbers, and be one of the wisest investments of time you ever make. 5 minutes a week, to save hours upon hours of frustration.

Don’t let the snowball get too big. Stay on top of things and track the numbers that count. This will help.

Trusting this all makes sense for you.

Remember, in business (and life), the realer you get with yourself, the realer life things will get around you. The key (as with all matters of importance), is to take full responsibility for where you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there.

The above system will help...but only if you use it.

Let me know if there are any questions by dropping a comment below -  I’d be happy to clarify anything that will help you get back on track.


Standing out is easy (with these 6 rules)

How many Facebook ads have you seen this morning?

What about on Instagram?

Or YouTube?

Truth is, at every turn, it seems there are more and more ads popping up.

How much more saturation can this industry take?

I used to get so frustrated with it. 

That was until I shifted my focus...

Instead of looking at the numbers, I started to look at the impact. Instead of counting the likes, I started counting the wins.

Honestly, it's one of the biggest mistakes I was making. Focusing on everyone else rather than the job I was being paid to get done.

Which brings me to the most important lesson I've learned during these last 12 months..


'Success' doesn't have to be complicated. Nor does it have to be some fluffy 'self-help' concept.

Success (to me) is living a deliberate life.

Doing what I like, when I like, with whom I like.

And I know it's not as easy as clicking your fingers and reading an email from me...but one thing I know for sure, is there are rules to this game we call life.

And if you want to win, you've got to play within the boundaries.

Here are a few I've chosen to live by, to ensure I'm putting myself in the way of success:

  1. Give more than you get
  2. Always find new problems to solve for others
  3. Push yourself to grow every day in every way
  4. Tackle your discomfort head on
  5. Take care of your mental, physical and spiritual fitness
  6. Consistently check-in with yourself to make sure you're behavior aligns with your values.

You've probably heard them 100 times before (maybe more).

But repetition is the master of all success.

Take this a reminder and check yourself against each of the above and see how you're doing.

Remember, success is nothing more than a series of small wins, strung together in the pursuit of a worthy outcome.

Don't (over)complicate it, let's get you on the right track to make it a reality.

Grab your signed copy of Your Pocket Coach today and set yourself up with the right mental mentors every single day.

"One page a day keeps the fear monger away!"

Today's Quote:
"Amateurs worry about the ego. Professionals worry about the impact".

Same Same, But Different.

Richard Branson has the same 168 hours as we all do. Mark Zuckerberg has access to the same books, resources and mentors we once had (remember, once upon a time he was just a college student)

Arnold Schwarzenegger has the same number of muscles in his body as we all have.

Yet, why is it that these people are able to achieve the impossible and do what most people can't even dream of?

You can blame genetics, upbringing, funds, and other external factors....but the truth is, these people weren't overly fortunate.

They didn't grow up with riches or amazing circumstances....

Instead they have one attribute that makes it all possible.

It is their ability to focus.

They have an extremely powerful way to focus their energy on one sole task, get really, really, really good at it, and only then, will they move on.

Think of your life and where you have good (but not great focus). Can you bunker down and become really, really, really good at it?

Can you commit to excellence and doing the best job possible?

Not many can, and not many more in our lifetime will have the same impact as the above. But there is room for some to achieve success to a huge level...

Will it be you?

Leadership Lessons while smoking Shisha.

So early in 2016, I was driving to get something to eat, and I parked next to my friend, Lizzy's Arabic Shisha cafe. (Cafe Arabica on Sydney Road for those playing at home) Lizzy is a very different individual. Before I met her, I didn't believe in people being spiritual or reading people.

I mean that is stupid and illogical...Right?

I'm all about mathematics and making sure things add up. 'Reading' people is hokey.

BUT the truth is...after being around her, I can undeniably tell you, that I believe she can read people.

She has made many predictions that have come true and without even knowing people that I know and have been around for years..she sees their inner being and is HIGHLY accurate (99%+) Whether they're liars, beautiful, kind, thieves, story tellers and more.

As I was going to get dinner, I walked past and saw Lizzy sitting at her cafe. It was around 7pm so there wasn't many customers just yet.

If you know about Shisha cafe's, you'll know they don't kick off until 11pm onwards. So I went in for a chat. Immediately upon arrival, she gave me three kisses (arabic tradition) followed by inviting me to sit with her.

Without even asking, her second in charge, prepared me a fresh mint tea and also a Shisha. (that's a little customer service bonus for you right there...give before the customer asks) I've only done shisha a couple of times, but when in Rome.....

So as we sat there and had a watermelon and licorice shisha while I talked (Lizzy amazing trait to have that MOST people have no idea about).

I explained to Lizzy how I was making some huge changes in my life and fully committing to growing a new business venture, Optimal Human Performance (more on that later).

She is a wise woman and I respect her opinion a lot.

A woman who made her first million in her early 20's, Lizzy knows 2 things inside out. 1. Business. 2. People.

And she isn't afraid to speak her mind on either (extremely blunt).

If someone pisses her off or is rude, she will tell them straight up...Fuck Off. It's the kind of honesty you truly respect.

She has what I call 'Genuine Authenticity'.

She is never rude unless someone is rude to her first, and will only dish out honest comments when they are needed. In the same token, if you look good, she will tell you. From her heart. A unique individual.

For 2 hours, we sat and discussed my major plans for my new venture, Optimal Human Performance. She explained some VITAL lessons that she has learned from owning several business, making big big money and helping others achieve the most in their lives & businesses.

The two main items were: 1. FOCUS 2. FOLLOW THROUGH

You must have focus in order to stick with something long enough for it to be profitable. I often watch videos and listen to my man, Elliott Hulse, who speaks about growing his Strength Camp channel and business. It took him 7 years to grow his channel to over a million subscribers (it's now at 1.5+ million)

No-one is willing to put in the relentless behind the scenes work required.

The extreme focus to stick at something long enough for it to get traction in the market place. I call it 'Under the Iceberg' and this graphic explains it perfectly.


Ask yourself, How long have I been doing what I'm currently? Do I love it? Am I focused enough for this to grow into my dream job? If you answered yes...KEEP GOING. If you answered no....GTFO and find another path to go down.

Otherwise you're wasting your time.

The second lesson, Follow through, ties in with focus, but is even more important in my opinion. Too many people start new things, get excited, kick things off and then 3 months in, when they see you actually have to continue working at it, they give up.

I was the same.

A few years ago, I wanted to start a stock buying club, a marketing company, a gym, a web design business, work on major events all while working a full time job....

Looking back at myself, I was extremely naive.

Just like focus, you need to be able to follow through.

The thing is, at the time, I didn't have the FOCUS or FOLLOW THROUGH.

My mind was full of garbage. A trash can that I filled with propaganda from TV, printed newspapers (in an attempt to try and be 'current' in important conversations with others), and a bunch of other useless junk. All while trying to grow several business at once. When I didn't see growth, I decided it must not be for me, and started creating more and more ideas. and more companies, and seeing if they were for me.

Don't get me wrong, I love trying new things, and it was necessary for me to do to get clear on my goals,

BUT....each new thing I started took up more time, which ran out....REAL fast.


Here's how I fixed the situation.

I want you to sit in a quiet place over the next 24 hours. Grab a pen and some paper. Leave your phone in the other room. You won't be needing it and it's just a distraction.

I want you to write down every activity you're currently involved in. Do you just have the one business or do you have a few you're trying to launch? What new skill are you trying to learn or master? What have you tried in the past 2 years? Did they take off or fail? Write down in detail and don't

This should take you 1-2 hours. But it's an investment WELL WORTH IT.

Once you have your list, what you're going to find is extreme mental clarity from dumping all of the junk inside of your head onto paper.

You will start to see where your time is going. What activities are wasting that time and where you can cut back/grow.

I did this and it helped with my mental clarity 10 fold.

Give it a try and let me know how you go.

You will be surprised. (but also thankful...i guarantee it)