One of the biggest mistakes that I see coaches make, is thinking they're their own client. They forget where they started and in doing so, fail to communicate the right message with the client.
Can you remember what it was like to walk into a gym for the first time?
I actually remember lifting in my garage for the first two years because I was too embarrassed to go to a real gym.
When I finally did decide to go to a gym (where I happened to choose one of the most popular gym's in Melbourne known for hardcore bodybuilding), I remember being so scared walking in.
I thought EVERYONE was looking at me.
Thinking I was small or pathetic.
(wasn't in the best place self confidence wise....)
The reality is, they were so concerned with their own muscles and their workout,
they probably didn't even know I was there.
Regardless of whether that's true or not, this was MY reality.
For that entire first week of training, I'd walk in (head down) and quickly just go to the treadmill and do some incline walking.
That was familiar, you know. I kind of knew what I was in for.
I didn't dare walk into the weights section.
What if I look like an idiot?
What if I get something wrong?
People will laugh and point.
*hardly a reality...but at that very point in time, it again, this was my reality - which is all that matters*
Now can you imagine this feeling x 1,000?
A woman who's had weight issues her whole life?
A guy who's been skinny and literally has no idea what to do inside the gym?
So often we forget that we all started somewhere.
We become so obsessed with what we love that we forget what it's like to have no idea how to perform a lift, or to start something new, or what it's like to be scared of looking dumb while lifting weights.
Instead of asking, most beginners put it off...again and again and again.
And then they suffer.
They lose personal power.
In today's judgement fuelled society, most insecure people (which gyms are filled with) think everyone is looking at them.
This is a very REAL fear that so many people hold.
But let me ask, what if you could be their support?
What if you were the one to introduce them to lifting safely, effectively and with confidence?
What would that do for them?
How could that skyrocket their confidence, personal power and belief in themselves?
I remember my first few conversations at the gym. Even the small ones.
They're the ones I still remember to this day. Those people still hold a place in my mind (and heart).
Each one of them slowly built my confidence.
When you help someone who has nothing to share in return (at least not initially) you set yourself up for a brighter future.
By assisting those who need it most, you share your gift with the world.
And that's something very few will forget.
As you walk into the world today, just remember, everyone was once a beginner.
Be the support you wish you had when you first started.
Have that conversation today and help them out.
You'll be surprised just how far it takes you...
Speak soon. Hayden